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Question to everyone but specifically for people with darker skin tones. How would you like parents to talk to their kids if the child mentioned your skin color?

Not in any sort of bad way. But like I have two toddlers the younger one is learning colors. We had a pest control guy come and he had a black truck he is also a black guy so my daughter recognized it but that’s it. I’d like to know how you guys would appreciate me talk to her about it or acknowledging that yes he is a different color but to one day not be rude about it. Something like that. Please let me know if this doesn’t make sense. It wasn’t the first time she’s seen a person of color but because she was talking about the truck that’s why it was brought up. So now do I just go yeah he is black isn’t that cool? Or what do you think?

Test reassurance please

Found out last week I was pregnant. As I was 3 weeks I first had a VFL then an obvious positive on a clear blue. Took a couple more tests on Sunday but they weren’t any darker. This is the test I took this morning at 4 weeks and a day after my period was due. The 2nd line is even fainter than the ones I did on the weekend. It is a different brand which Chat GPT said can be like this. This is my 2nd pregnancy and I found out with my 1st at 4 weeks the day I was due on and had very dark lines. So I’m really worried that these don’t seem to be getting any darker. I’ll keep on testing every other day but not sure what I do if it still isn’t darkening?

Confused

Right… I’m so confused. My period is due today, and for the past week I had a slight feeling that I might be pregnant. Terrified as we have a one year old - we weren’t trying. Anyway, most of my symptoms were indicating pregnancy, so I took test on Saturday ( can see faint line - shocked as this is what I had with my first daughter), Sunday different test showing negative, Monday - test showed a faint line within the time frame then it disappeared, took another test this morning and is negative. I’m slightly relieved, but confused and also a bit sad after yesterday’s test. What the hell was that?

I wanted to post more photos. The one I’m attaching is the first test.

Im an idiot and somebody needs to stop me please

Ladies, I’m 4 days past ovulation and like a fool I’ve been testing already. Of course there’s no line and it made me sad. I’ve definitely had the eye lines too pretending to myself that there’s something there. But really I’ve just made myself cross eyed.

I have a little girl already and I did the same crazy behaviour of testing way too early and then getting upset. I need to stop this crazy behaviour. I forgot how hard the TWW is.

Positive?

All these photos were taken directly aftwr my 3 min timer. Thoughts.

6 weeks of Tinziparin injections. How many did you actually do?

If you weren’t advised to take Tinziparin injections post partum or were only asked to do 2 weeks please use the final answer

What do we think?

I don’t know if anyone else can see the line, but in person it has a blue tint. Last night, I took an Equate test from Walmart and it was negative. When I checked it this morning, the control line was gone too. This wasn’t first morning urine, and I had a large drink before taking the test. I only had a blue-dye test and a digital test left, and if I am pregnant, I think it may be too early for a digital test to show a positive result.

For my ovulation test

The lines are very dark but the circle is blank can someone help me please could it mean I’m pregnant or not

Pregnant at 3 months PP ?😬

First off; I know what unprotected sex leads too. I’m a mum of 3.

I had unprotected sex last weekend (early hours of Sunday morning 🫣)
It was stupid, I’m a single parent with no dad on the scene and an old friend come over for a catch up and one thing led to another..
obviously being very freshly postpartum I’m quite erm, fertile shall we say 🫣😅

I’ve had 2 periods since having baby and last one I believe was very beginning of may. I have PCOS so they’re a bit all over the place usually and just having a baby doesn’t help either.
But, I’ve had some quite mild cramping and an increase in white (I hate this word with a passion) discharge.

I know it’s too early to test right now but when should I be testing?
According to my Flo app I should have ovulated on 10th June. 3 days after I danced with the devil.

We listen and we don’t judge so if that’s what you wanna do, kindly go elsewhere.

Thanks!!!

Two days late? Hoping that my period is just late and that I’m not pregnant again!

After I gave birth to my son, my periods did take a couple of months to adjust but then they became fairly regular. I’d say I have a 26-27 day cycle. A multitude of things could be going on, delayed ovulation, maybe stress, etc. I’m getting a pregnancy test to rule things out though. I’m hoping it’ll come later on today and that I’m overreacting. I’m praying that my period is late and it’s nothing else 😭anyone else gone through the same thing?

10mo doesn’t like boiled egg

Any advice?

Only child guilt - looking for advice

I’m really torn about whether to have another child or stay a family of three (my son is 3 years old, nearly 4).

We currently have one child and are comfortable financially, and our home/lifestyle works well as it is. I’ve always leaned towards one child, especially after a difficult birth experience, and I’m only just feeling like myself again.

But lately I’ve been feeling a lot of guilt and doubt, mainly from seeing content about siblings. I worry my son might miss out on having a sibling, even though he has friends and social opportunities.

At the same time, I know having another baby would mean big changes — less time for my son, tighter finances, career impact, and less flexibility.

I can imagine both lives, which is why I feel stuck. Has anyone else been in this position deciding whether to stop at one? How did you decide, and did you regret it either way?

IVF referral - waiting time

Hope somebody can help me.
I had all basic test done with GP and finally got the referral with 1 listed hospital near me.

When I wanted to book the appointment the website said no availability and there are 3 options.
- check again later
- choose other clinic (was only listed 1, so no option to change)
- request contact

I did request but the message said if they dont contact until aug 10 call them.

Is this normal to wait this long for only 1 appointment in the IVF process?
My age is an issue, so I cannot wait that long, also it said the average time is 19weeks...

What other options do i have?
Please help.

Raised BBT, 12DPO, negative test?!

9th cycle. Early detection test from clear blue used and a supermarket red dye. My heart hurts. Can anyone reassure? Have you tested negative on 12DPO and been pregnant that cycle?

Is this normal?

This is just a £3.99 cheap early detection test i took this morning at 11dpo. Is it positive? And is it normal for it to be this light? I also had a faint last night. Tia

8 days late

This my first test I took in the afternoon. Is this a positive? I am taking another first thing in the morning.

Did I not ovulate? TTC

Hey there! This is my 2nd cycle after my first miscarriage. Had my cycle June 1st and My app said I should be at peak ovulation today but it seems to be getting lighter, does that mean I did not ovulate? Or maybe I am ovulating later In the month? Trying not to get discouraged 🫤 thanks for your help ❤️

Two lines?

just wanted to try the boots saliva pregnancy test.

I cannot say whether it’s negative or positive!!! i’ve saw similar pictures on Google like mine that were positive from the same test.

Anybody else had a similar experience, or is there somebody who is currently pregnant that can show me what a positive looks like for them from the same test? ☺️🫶🏼

Hcg remainders

I had a miscarriage 2 1/2 weeks ago and im still showing pregnant on hcg tests , my hcg was 418 a week and a half ago so I thought it would be out by now .
How long has it taken for yours to show negatives ?

Lonely mom, trying to find her place

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one that struggles with this...
I've changed a lot since becoming a mom. I've become closer to God and I'm also very cautious on what my son consumes. For example just because my son wants to eat cookies and candy means he's going to eat it. He also can't watch just anything on tv. It usually has to be educational and for a small amount of time.
Whenever I go out and meet new parents, I find it so difficult to click with them because they are the complete opposite from me, especially when it comes to how they raise their kids. Part of me doesn't even care if we don't have much in common, what's more important is what they allow or don't allow their children to do. Usually if I see their children have bad behavior, I just take my son and leave.
The main reason I do this is because I put a lot of effort on raising my son and I don't say this to offend anyone.
Does anyone else struggle with this? Do you still have hope you will find other parents and children that align with your teachings?