I need to rant.

If it's your babies stuff, I will put my foot down like he can act like that with his stuff but not my babies stuff, cause you can't just let him keep getting his way, that's how they raise him but when it come to others no he won't be invited if he can't behave or learn that he can't get his way all the time, and of course it's not much you can do cause it's not your kids but when it's your baby stuff no

My boyfriend sister kid is like that calling his mom by her first name, but he going be in for a rude awaken when my baby come and his mom other baby come no spoil stuff, we both due in july, her before me smh I just be watching him do that stuff smh and mom keeps saying you're my favorite and don't spank him or anything, but I know with my daughter she going be respectful and I will put my foot down

I just had this conversation with my boyfriends aunt yesterday. She said she used to go to this persons kids birthdays and they would never open the presents everyone bought and she used to be upset and think it was rude until she had a kid. Now she thinks it’s a good idea because 1. It’s hard to get kids to sit still and do that 2. If their reaction is genuine when they don’t like something someone’s feelings could get hurt and 3. All of the other kids like to take their stuff and play with it like it’s theirs. So for birthdays I honestly don’t feel like it’s a bad idea to just not open the presents and try to keep the attention on your kid and let their gifts be special to them without other kids trying to take them and whine when they don’t get stuff or get to take it home with them. Also always bring your own toys when you go places even if you’re going somewhere there should be toys. And bring enough for the other kid if there will be other kids. Like bring two toy cars instead

Also just make sure that you’re always willing to play with your kid when they ask if they’re in a situation where the other kid doesn’t want to play with them or isn’t being fair. His aunt really displayed great motherhood while we were at my baby shower yesterday because the other kid there did not want to share or really even play with him and she sat with him and did instead with toys they brought and they had extras in case he came asking to play with them to avoid drama

I’d just focus on your own child. There’s not a lot you can do about how they choose to parent. The new sibling in May could change things a lot and it’s a while until you have to worry about your kids birthday. He’ll also be going to school soon which should help as that won’t be acceptable there. If it does come to it, I think it’s fine to stop your nephew if he does something that affects your child.

It's hard when it's family, but how they raise their child/ren isn't really any of your business. You just have to teach your child to your values and morals.

Not your job to parent this other child but you also don't need to stand by if it is not how you are choosing to parent. You're allowed to not have your child around that. Set boundaries and stick by them. You have to be the best parent for your child. Being a parent comes before everything else.

The 4 year old has been solo this entire time, so once their baby sibling enters the fold, things will inevitably change. They’ll continue to change once they’re in school as well because that type of behavior isn’t tolerated there. I think you’ll be in the clear of having to manage this child at future events, but I fear it may not be the last time you’ll have to deal with an insubordinate toddler as there are many out there. You shouldn’t stress about future hypotheticals and just enjoy what you can of your pregnancy and your growing family. The drama can wait. 😊