Not allowed to baby proof
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Put that shit up when he's not home, and let him whine like a baby
Ours doesn't have mounts. Just screw like with white stoppers that hit the wall. We also zip tie the plastic ones when put them somewhere to make to stronger and where kids can't detach them
@Jamie Because of my molding, pressure mounted ones don’t work, I tried a couple already. So frustrating
Ask ur husband how is he helping you? What was the point of having kids if not able to help urselfs through the process. Are you renting or owning?
@Jamie We rent right now bc we recently moved to a new state. He’s too much of an egomaniac to be able to answer that question. If you haven’t dealt with narcs before, it’s impossible to understand how unbelievably irrational and selfish they are
@Jamie Yeah like that. Just the way the molding is shaped and the banister, makes it impossible to pressure mount one
Sometimes asking for forgiveness is better than permission. This is one of those times...
Ya renting is a whole other thing. Then it's not really ur husband but the renting that sucks. I'd ask ur landlord of he has ideas for you or can put it in writing that it won't hurt u to add
Lose the husband get the gate 😂🫣
Aw I’m sorry he’s not willing to upset the aesthetics for the safety of his children. How disappointing. If it were me, I would just hire someone while he’s at work. He won’t like it. But he also probably wouldn’t like his child to fall the stairs 🤷♀️
Sounds like the type of husband to blame you(all while he’s doing nothing) if the baby falls down the steps! The worst type. Sorry you have to deal with that. Renting I get not wanting to put holes in the wall it will cost money to fix and mess with ur security deposit . Can you try some other alternatives??? I’m sure google will give advice on damage free gates of some kind ?
Yea people really aren’t understanding here. Just came to say solidarity. Of course he doesn’t want his child to fall down the stairs but if the child did, in his mind it wouldn’t be his fault for not letting you put up the gate it would be your fault for not watching the child good enough. Because, what do you do all day anyways? I get it dude. It’s fucking awful. And for everyone saying do it anyways, it will just cause a nightmare argument where he berates and belittles and maybe he will just rip it down anyways. No winning with these men.
Watch some you tube videos and do it when he’s out. Screw him.
@Cassie Thank you! Exactly. I am fully capable of putting this thing up on my own but the backlash… it’s lose lose, just like most situations with narcs
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Your kids safety is more important than the backlash, what if something happens to one of your kids, wouldn't u feel guilty , if your husband didn't want them using car seats would u listen to that?
@Julie Oh my son is safe because I just have to tail around behind him every single second. You’re implying that I would put my son’s safety at risk and that isn’t the case. The impact is on my wellbeing, but of course that always comes second (or third or fourth or fifth…) when you’re a mom
What a loser 🤬
Not at all implying, I'm just saying it's nearly impossible to follow your kod every second and mistakes happen to all of us , even the best of moms
I had same problem. My husband didn’t want to put a gate because he said they expensive. And mind you he is earning a lot. So we never put a gate and I always had to chase our toddler up and down even now pregnant with my second
@Mary I’m sorry you’re dealing with something similar. It’s unbelievable when you say it out loud. Do you think your husband is a narcissist or is he just being a pain about this?
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