Postpartum Care: Getting Through The Fourth Trimester

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This app is so toxic.
Nearly every post asking for advice of some sort and if someone doesn’t like your opinion or you don’t validate everyone’s feelings then you’re immediately bullied and bombarded with names and insults. Women have gone as far as making fun of my baby and his medical needs, his looks, telling me to kill myself. It’s also nonstop bashing husbands, etc.
And don’t waste your time making a report cause you’ll be ignored.
Thought becoming a mom would be this wonderful experience to make some new friends and be uplifted and I’ve come to the conclusion that majority of women in all walks of life are just truly horrible human beings.
I’m totally okay keeping my circle intimate. This world is going to shit. ✌🏽

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Have any of you felt happy and normal postpartum? Especially the second time around

Just wondering if it’s possible to not feel like yourself after having a baby. Like does it have to be weird everytime? Like you’re crawling back to feeling normalcy?

If your answer is no, no need to contribute to this poll

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Does your MIL take credit for things you yourself taught your child and they have nothing to do with it?

Really f**** me off. My husband knows it and agrees too but says to just leave it and ignore her. And I absolutely hate when she calls my 1.5 year old dramatic over nothing. She will literally do what any other child does and she name calls her dramatic. Can’t stand it.

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Birth partners?

Im thinking about my birth i know its a while away yet but part of me wants my mum there with me as well as my partner but when i mentioned this to my partner he didnt say anything but i could tell he wasnt keen and seemed like he doesnt want that. Whats people opinions? Should i say something? Do i give him a say in it when im the one giving birth??
Please help😩😩

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Anterior placenta?

Anyone have an anterior placenta before? This is my 4th baby, but my first with the anterior placenta. Took forever to feel him lol. Ive read that women experience more back labor than anything. Would anyone be able to tell me if they noticed anything different about labor?

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lower back pain

my back is genuinely killing me, i had problems with it before this and i’m only 11 weeks now. i feel like one wrong step and it’s going to collapse. i can handle pain pretty well but my god im in agony and i can’t take my tramadol anymore😩 awful.

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Pregnant low mood

I’m 18 weeks with my second baby and over the last couple of weeks I’ve had days where my mood has been so low and almost depressed. Emotional and can’t stop crying. Today at work I had to take myself away and just broke down in tears for no particular reason. Everything just feels heavy and difficult. I didn’t ever get days like this in my first pregnancy although that was with a boy and I am now expecting a girl so I don’t know if it’s hormones. I’m really exhausted and burnt out and it’s horrible feeling like I’ve got such a big black cloud hanging over me. I don’t have any holiday to use at work and my husband is suggesting I should just call in sick tomorrow to allow myself time to rest and be by myself but I’d feel so guilty doing that especially as it would mean a day unpaid

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Social anxiety.

Hi guys, I just wanted to ask- does anyone have advice that genuinely works?
Bit of a backstory- I had a meeting with a client, and oh my word, was I jumbling my words and struggling to get my points across because I genuinely struggle with social anxiety. I find it hard to put my points across because it’s like my mind takes over and I freeze. Honestly, I try to put my self in these situations to make me try overcome the hurdle but it just reinforces that I am almost incapable and it breaks my confidence quite a bit rather than help me overcome it. I find that this is something I genuinely need to at least overcome, as I want to be a better mom and I don’t want to feel like my quality of life will always be hindered by this…
They say to go through it and the more exposure the better, but is there anything else that people can recommend?

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How do single mothers do it? (major rant)

Idk how i can do this anymore🤦🏻‍♀️ im a single mom and i’ve been a single mom for a little over a year now, it was easier in the beginning since my son was younger but now that he’s older it’s been way harder. my mom has been my only support system but now she basically wants nothing to do with me, we lost my grandma (her mom) back in april an everything since then has switched between me and my mom. i understand grieving over someone is completely different for each person, but she has completely shut down how she feels about my mental health an is completely ignoring how i feel in general. my alone time an quite time have always been a big part of me but now since april she hasn’t care about my own space and it’s finally catching up to me, and it’s mentally draining me to the point where i want to harm myself bc i can’t take it anymore. my son was never planed, so me an the father first idea was abortion bc 1. we were 18 when we found out 2. we knew it wasn’t the time an place for it. but people got into my head saying to keep it an that imma have a strong support system if i have the baby and everything else you can think of, but where are those people now? no where to be found an don’t even reach out anymore. my einschl thought was if i went thru with the abortion i was gonna to regret it and from there i kinda went with that bc i didn’t wanna have the guilt built up in me for doing something like that so i obviously went thru with the pregnancy. but now at this point i have no support system at all to fall back on, i don’t work as i am the one to watch my son 24/7 so i can’t just leave my situation like id want to. my bf is basically my only support but he’s 2 hours away an his truck is broke down so he would have to use his moms car to get to me but she works during the week so it’s not even a option like i’d want it to be, living with him isn’t a option either. even when my bf is around he helps with my son, but when i’d like some alone time with him i’m not able to majority of the time bc my mom doesn’t want to watch my son for whatever reason, idk if it’s envy or what bc when i was growing up myself my mom was a single mother as-well an when she would try to get into relationships my father would always mess it up for her so she’s been single pretty much my whole life, she’s always wanted a big family but obviously never found the person, so i don’t know if she just envys me for the relationship i have with my bf or what. i’ve reached out to friends about this seeking for help but all they have to say is “this is apart of parenthood”, wanting to harm yourself is absolutely not apart of parenthood at all. i completely understand that being a parent is sacrificing your life for your child and loosing out on a lot of things like examples i’ve said before, but single mothers and mothers in general need a break sometimes. i’ve been dealing with the crying, whinnying, being jumped on, hair pulled, i have bruises on my body, restless sleep at night and not being able to sleep till 3-4am everynight, all while my “support system of a mother” doesn’t care about any of it, when she is watching him she can’t even last 10 minutes without getting upset with him bc he gets into stuff. i also completely understand that my mom isn’t my sons parent and that i am and that’s not what im trying to indicate at all bc i do understand 1,000% i am the parent and have parental responsibilities. but wanting to harm yourself as a parent bc no one is there for you or shows up for you is 100% not okay at all. i’m just seeking for help and for some advice on what to do bc i’m losing myself daily.

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How do single moms do it? (major rant)

Idk how i can do this anymore🤦🏻‍♀️ im a single mom and i’ve been a single mom for a little over a year now, it was easier in the beginning since my son was younger but now that he’s older it’s been way harder. my mom has been my only support system but now she basically wants nothing to do with me, we lost my grandma (her mom) back in april an everything since then has switched between me and my mom. i understand grieving over someone is completely different for each person, but she has completely shut down how she feels about my mental health an is completely ignoring how i feel in general. my alone time an quite time have always been a big part of me but now since april she hasn’t care about my own space and it’s finally catching up to me, and it’s mentally draining me to the point where i want to harm myself bc i can’t take it anymore. my son was never planed, so me an the father first idea was abortion bc 1. we were 18 when we found out 2. we knew it wasn’t the time an place for it. but people got into my head saying to keep it an that imma have a strong support system if i have the baby and everything else you can think of, but where are those people now? no where to be found an don’t even reach out anymore. my einschl thought was if i went thru with the abortion i was gonna to regret it and from there i kinda went with that bc i didn’t wanna have the guilt built up in me for doing something like that so i obviously went thru with the pregnancy. but now at this point i have no support system at all to fall back on, i don’t work as i am the one to watch my son 24/7 so i can’t just leave my situation like id want to. my bf is basically my only support but he’s 2 hours away an his truck is broke down so he would have to use his moms car to get to me but she works during the week so it’s not even a option like i’d want it to be, living with him isn’t a option either. even when my bf is around he helps with my son, but when i’d like some alone time with him i’m not able to majority of the time bc my mom doesn’t want to watch my son for whatever reason, idk if it’s envy or what bc when i was growing up myself my mom was a single mother as-well an when she would try to get into relationships my father would always mess it up for her so she’s been single pretty much my whole life, she’s always wanted a big family but obviously never found the person, so i don’t know if she just envys me for the relationship i have with my bf or what. i’ve reached out to friends about this seeking for help but all they have to say is “this is apart of parenthood”, wanting to harm yourself is absolutely not apart of parenthood at all. i completely understand that being a parent is sacrificing your life for your child and loosing out on a lot of things like examples i’ve said before, but single mothers and mothers in general need a break sometimes. i’ve been dealing with the crying, whinnying, being jumped on, hair pulled, i have bruises on my body, restless sleep at night and not being able to sleep till 3-4am everynight, all while my “support system of a mother” doesn’t care about any of it, when she is watching him she can’t even last 10 minutes without getting upset with him bc he gets into stuff. i also completely understand that my mom isn’t my sons parent and that i am and that’s not what im trying to indicate at all bc i do understand 1,000% i am the parent and have parental responsibilities. but wanting to harm yourself as a parent bc no one is there for you or shows up for you is 100% not okay at all. i’m just seeking for help and for some advice on what to do bc i’m losing myself daily.

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Post natal depression sorry it’s long

Has anybody else not only had postnatal depression, but thought they would get it even before giving birth?

I’m 36 weeks pregnant at the moment and with this pregnancy and my first one I’ve had a lot of mental instability I’ve had anxiety attacks, panic attacks, feelings that I don’t deserve to have a baby after we had a termination five years ago, I have intrusive thoughts, nightmares at night about hurting the baby, dropping the baby and comments from my partner that he doesn’t want the baby that I forced him into having our second.
I just feel like because he hasn’t been interested in this pregnancy he’s done literally nothing to help me and we do have a bit of a rocky relationship. I already feel so overwhelmed and ignored and stressed and depressed and I’m just getting into my head now that I won’t be able to connect with this new baby all this experience it just made me think it was a mistake and we haven’t done the right thing. I want this baby more than anything a little boy after we’ve had a girl I just feel myself spiralling into this hole and yeah, I’ve got good support around me and I’ve got friends and family that live close but I just feel like this baby is gonna arrive and I’m just gonna feel so down and disconnected and I won’t be able to be a good mum I feel like I’ve just checked out mentally at the moment. And I feel really guilty knowing this baby will be here in a few weeks.

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Anxiety panic disorder

I’ve always been a worried person, ever since I was a child. In 2022 I had a breakdown and couldn’t stop having panic attacks over nothing. Since then I’ve been on medication to help (it’s all safe in pregnancy). Recently I’ve had to take a diazepam as it has become unbearable again and I don’t know what has triggered it. Could be staying at my boyfriend’s house after a long time but I’m trying so hard to push through it for my baby.
My boyfriend is concerned that I won’t be completely able to look after our baby when I become like this (psa we have LOADS of family and friends to support us). I had a little cry last night over that comment but I know I’ll be a good mum, panic disorder or not
Sorry this is so long, just needed a quick vent

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Tubes removed

Has anyone gotten their tubes removed and totally regret it? I been having baby fever so bad I want another little girl

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My fault apparently

Basically I have a 5 year old son and I'm having a little girl in October but unfortunately I don't have my son living with me and my unborn daughter can't come home either it's because of domestic violence records cohesive behaviour physical and mental abuse from him and hes always yelling at me saying it's my fault because I was in care and I'm on methadone it's killing me inside

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When did you get your spark back postpartum?

going through PPD and i think this feeling is forever… please comment as well?

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Pain after C-section

I had an emergency c section 3 weeks ago. Is it common to feel worse now than I did last week? My abdomen is aching and I’m getting stinging and aching pain from where my C-section wound is. My lower tummy around the C-section is still very sensitive and it all looks worse from how deep my stretch marks were during pregnancy.
I am now exclusively breastfeeding so I think this may contribute to how achy I am feeling?

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From the community

Do better ladies

Have any of you felt happy and normal postpartum? Especially the second time around

Does your MIL take credit for things you yourself taught your child and they have nothing to do with it?

Birth partners?

Anterior placenta?

lower back pain

Pregnant low mood

Social anxiety.

How do single mothers do it? (major rant)

How do single moms do it? (major rant)

Post natal depression sorry it’s long

Anxiety panic disorder

Tubes removed

My fault apparently

When did you get your spark back postpartum?

Pain after C-section

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Postpartum Care

On the blog

September Babies, September Moms: What Caring for Both Actually Looks Like

C-Section Shelf: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Actually Deal With It

Can’t Keep Your Cool? Surviving Postpartum Rage Without Losing Your Mind

What’s an Epidural Headache & How Can I Treat It?

Your Complete Guide to the 4th Trimester

First Night Home from the NICU: What to Expect

Postpartum Discharge: How Long Does It Last?

Postpartum Workout Plan Tips: How to Start and Why

Postpartum Preeclampsia: Risks, Symptoms, and Treatment

Postpartum Hemorrhoids: What You Need to Know

What is Postpartum Thyroiditis? Triggers and Treatment

Why Do I Get Postpartum Night Sweats?

40 Postpartum Essentials for Mom After Birth

Postpartum Diet: Top Tips On What to Eat After Birth

All You Need to Know About a Vaginal Tear

Sex After a C-Section: 6 Things You Need to Know

From the community

Do better ladies

Have any of you felt happy and normal postpartum? Especially the second time around

Does your MIL take credit for things you yourself taught your child and they have nothing to do with it?

Birth partners?

Anterior placenta?

lower back pain

Pregnant low mood

Social anxiety.

How do single mothers do it? (major rant)

How do single moms do it? (major rant)

Post natal depression sorry it’s long

Anxiety panic disorder

Tubes removed

My fault apparently

When did you get your spark back postpartum?

Pain after C-section

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