Second time mumma’s

Has anyone had another natural birth after having an episiotomy with your first and can give any advice… did you have any tears or need to have an episiotomy again. What was recovery like the second time

I’m due my second baby next week and my first was exclusively breastfed and an absolute boob monster, never took a bottle. I don’t think I can go through that intensity of breastfeeding again especially with a 2 year old so I plan to give a couple bottles of formula a day too. I want it to be as easy as possible, what products would you recommend (sterilisers, heating/cooling gadgets etc etc) thank you!

Those that have 3 children or more what is it really like?

I’m 4 months into baby number 2. We always initially wanted 3 but when we’re faced with how hard it is looking after a baby and how bloody expensive everything is now my partner is a hard no and I’m a maybe leaning towards a no. This breaks my mummy heart so much.

I’m one of 3 and always thought I’d have 3. But I’m struggling with 2, everything is so expensive, and I can imagine trying to get childcare for 3 is a huge ask.

I’m on maternity leave but will be going to back to work part time and I don’t know how we’d manage with maternity leave and money. My last pregnancy was absolutely awful with sickness I genuinely don’t know if I could do it again with 2 children to look after.

But I keep thinking of 3 around the table in 20 years time. It would be a hard few years in the beginning but is it worth it?

How hard is it? Are you glad? Any regrets?

I have a toddler (3 next month) and a 15 week old. I am really struggling. I feel miserable and I worry I’ve made a mistake because I don’t always want to feel miserable. It’s so overwhelming and I feel like I’m failing both of them, especially my older son. I want to be there for him more but I can’t because of the baby. And I love them both more than anything but I also don’t want to feel like I’m drowning all the time or constantly on edge. Does it get better?

I’ve not been doing tummy time with my 3 month old because I’ve also got a 2 year old so we just haven’t had time / it’s not been a priority. I’ve done it a few times but he still can’t hold his head up - have I failed him by not doing tummy time religiously?

My first was quite advanced and loved being on her front from early on so I would often put her on her front, whereas my boy spends more time on his back. My first was rolling at 3 months and my second can’t even lift his head. I know you shouldn’t compare but it’s hard not to.