Vent About Your Husband/Boyfriend Issues

So can someone just send me hugs. Or a logical explanation ever since my son was born, my husband and I haven't been the same. Everything obviously changed.. but I have struggled deeply postpartum and add in a semi truck hitting my baby and I. It's like I woke up in a new life. Antidepressants antianxiety meds therapy and support groups.. I'm trying so hard.. But my husband has lost it..raged ..broke things .scared me to blacking out almost peed myself. He's let anger take the driver seat. He scared me months ago...and now tonight got it again.. tried to grab our son and leave. That didn't go well.. and now I'm left holding my son. With confused aspects of what the heck is happening. His anger. The threats the grabbing attempted nonsense .like I mentally can't process...I'm so sad.. and I don't understand why he's so mad. He told me I'm an awful wife and crappy mom and that basically I shouldn't want anything anymore from life. Sorry I'm slowly falling apart...

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So last night I fed the baby tomato pasta, it was everywhere. I took her up for a bath and bedtime and didn’t go downstairs again until this morning. You guessed it tomato pasta still everywhere, high chair filthy, recycling bin full & overflowing, dishwasher full but not turned on/ clean?? I’m getting so sick of making dinner, cleaning up, feeding the baby & doing everything whilst he only does something unless told? What happens when you become dad where you decide that all the cleaning of the house and everything you used to do just stops? Before w head a baby we both worked and cleaned and tidied but now it’s my job? Because I have to look after a screaming baby all day? The fuck? I’m so sick of feeling like I’m nagging all the time and him asking why I’m so angry… I used to be so happy & carefree..

My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 and a half year our son is 17 months. The issue is he has always smoked weed I didn’t mind how ever since the beginning of this year he has been spending over half our money on it the last 3 months he keeps saying I’m gonna change which he will but never longer than a week his favourite line is next month I’ll do better and will have more money that hasn’t happened yet because of all the spending I am in behind with basically every bill apart from rent due to it getting paid for us since we are a low income household at the moment, however if I break up with him I would be better off financially by about £300-£400 per month it’s getting to the point where I’m staring to hate and resent him but still for some reason love him like if I was to kick him out tomorrow which I can do since the whole flat is in my name he would have nowhere to go so he’d be homeless until our local council will find him somewhere due to his mental conditions just need. Side note my parents hate him thinks he’s a loser, sponger and a junkie they don’t even know it’s as bad money wise as it is.

I have been unemployed for a long time despite applying for jobs, attending interviews, and trying to rebuild my career after years spent caring for my daughter and supporting my family. Being financially dependent on my husband has left me feeling trapped and powerless.

At home, things have been difficult. My husband, Hitesh, often becomes angry, dismissive, or emotionally distant. There are times when he refuses to speak to me for hours, stays in a separate room, ignores me, and does not acknowledge how much I am struggling. I feel like my concerns are brushed aside rather than discussed.

I am raising a young child while dealing with unemployment, financial dependence, and ongoing stress in my marriage. The combination of joblessness, lack of independence, and feeling unsupported at home has affected my confidence, mental wellbeing, and sense of self-worth.

I am looking to hear from people who have experienced similar situations and understand what it is like to feel stuck between wanting independence and having limited options.