Fuck mother in laws😂😂😡😡

So first time posting but any advice on in-laws who do nothing but tell you you’re not enough call you lazy a bad mom and a fat b!tçh bc I’ve had about all I can take and my fiance and I both have cussed these people out tried to cut ties and they just wiggle back in bc to my fiance he (squashed it and it’s over) but it never is and never changes any time his grandma comes over there is something wrong with the house or the kids or I’m not doing anything right and I’m tired of it . For example I just had a hysterectomy 2 weeks ago today and not supposed to do anything for at least 4-6 weeks and his family watched the kids for 4 days day befor during and after my surgery and then brought them to me on the 4th day after saying I was a lazy pos bc my boys had a cold and his grandma don’t like the dr we take them to it’s a whole story she went as far as saying they would die in their sleep from infection bc I don’t take them to the dr she wanted. Anyways she has posed on fb talking about me and my fiance being bad parents ect and when my mother seen it and finally had enough of her doing this kind of thing she comments on the post and that leads to her dishing out more hateful degrading comments toward me well this then spirals into me personally messaging her about it and her calling me leading to me going off the deep end on her and my fiance doing the same just for a few days to pass and her trying to act like it’s not a big deal and shouldn’t matter now and my fiance acting the same but then a few days ago his grandparents call and ask what we’re doing to which he told them he was working outside while I did what I could in the house and instantly was met with the comment “she’s probably in there sitting on her fat f-ing aşș” idk if we can cuss on here but my fiance then goes off on them for the 10000x now and yet agin here we are with them all acting like it’s fine. Idk what to do anymore im tired of being disrespected and the it brushed off as a casual conversation even if my fiance is defending me. Ever since i had the surgery I haven’t had any time to rest or heal and have been told 2x now my my surgeon and dr that if I keep up like this I can seriously harm myself leading to another surgery or worse and even with that lingering around my emotional state is horrible rn I’ve been struggling severely with depression and anxiety since the surgery and all this on top of that has me feeling like I’m drowning and not able to figure out rationally on what I should do about everything. Any thoughts or advice is welcome.

So my mil messages me to come see our daughter as my partner and his mum don’t really get along but he didn’t feel it was right my daughter missing out on a grandparent. I run all plans through him before agreeing to them (even when it’s just me and her).

Now she’s trying to make my FIL sound really bad and it makes my partner and me feel trapped and like we can’t talk to her about everything.

She also has no intention in coming round to see her son, just her granddaughter… do I put my foot down and say that he comes to see him at some point and not my daughter? If she doesn’t then she’s not seeing my daughter

All advise welcome x

So my husband finally told his mom that I want to have a conversation with her. How do I go about telling her about her rude and disrespectful behavior towards me and that it’s not okay. Please give me advice

My mother-in-law often treats my partner poorly, even when he’s trying to help. For example, they were moving house and asked him to do a few trips in his car, which he agreed to. On the same day, my sister came to visit me because I’ve recently had a miscarriage — she lives two hours away, so it was important to me. My partner told his mum he would come and help once everyone had left. After they finished, he called her, and she said everything had already been moved and sarcastically thanked him for his “help.” When he reminded her that he’d already told her he would come later, she responded by saying he should have called earlier so she could “save him a couple of trips” instead of having someone else do it. Situations like this happen a lot — she makes sarcastic comments and belittles him, even when he’s done nothing wrong. I’ve suggested he should start putting some boundaries in place, but I’m starting to question whether I’m overreacting

she has my husband's location and calls multiple times a day! she literally knows everything that is going on! it is so annoying! i keep arguing about it but he blames her for constantly calling but why is he picking up and telling her everything!