Working Motherhood

I keep crying all the time. Anyone have any advice. This is my last baby. 💔

Hi mamas..I feel awful typing this.. I am doing my residency and have a 3yo daughter. I work/train 8-4 on weekdays, plus 2hr up and down commute. My child has very low sleep requirements (I don't know why). She does not fall asleep before 11pm and wakes up at 8am. Which is not feasible for me as I have to leave home by 7am to work. She does not play much on her own. She constantly needs my attention. I try to be present with her in those few hours I get after daycare pickup til bedtime. Needless to say I am exhausted and underslept. My partner comes home from work at 7pm and give s me about an hour (fragmented) to study. Nothing enters my brain as I am already exhausted by then. I am at my wits end. I can't go any further. Grandparents are selfish and not involved. I hire a nanny whenever I can but let's be honest, nannies are expensive and I will like a shitty mom for not spending any time with my child. Week days are absolutely brutal. I catch up on sleep a little over the weekends but this is no way to live.

I don't know what I want from here but I'm just struggling to do it all. I can't quit now because I am more than half way through my training.

When did motherhood get less demanding for you? When did life get easier?

To my fellow working moms with nannies, what is your sick leave policy/protocols? My nanny wants to “revisit our Covid and general illness protocols” after Covid disrupted her holiday plans. I think she blames my husband, who had a cold prior to Christmas but has had repeatedly negative Covid tests. He tried to avoid overlapping with her while ill and is out of the house when she’s working. I’m talking to her about it later this week but curious to what others are doing and what is reasonably to be expected. (For context: We offer 5days paid sick leave, inform her if ill and avoid common places.)

My manager has put me in an uncomfortable situation twice. A few weeks ago I had sent an email asking to speak with my manager about my role and how I’ve been getting work from a Director and unsure how to handle the situation and whether it pertains to my job scope. I met with her (manager) before Thanksgiving and she told me she met with the Director. Before even speaking with me or acknowledging my concerns. What if I was being harassed at work? How can I trust her. Today another incident. I emailed stating I’d be WFH due to being sick with a stomach virus all week. My manager announced me being sick at our team huddle and then someone made a comment that my house is a bacterial cesspool and pity my kids, my manager responded yeah. I feel like she didn’t need to announce to everyone I’m sick and that she should have stopped my colleague in her tracks after that comment. I don’t know how to even handle this situation.

Hey does anybody know of any weekend job’s preferably Fri, Sat, Sun. I’m tryna find a job or gig I can do and those days are the only days I’m available without too many accommodations like have to go in after a certain time but be off in time to pick my kids up from school, then attend college certain days.. too hectic during the week lol !

If you guys know any .. anything helps 😊❤️