Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Adopting step child

So my partner(married) wants to adopt my child, the biological father doesn't know the child exists, when reading up it says the biological father has to except and agree, can my partner adopt if I don't know who the father is? Or can they find out themselves who the father is threw DNA ? And ask him.

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Nagging

I’m tired of hearing the constant nagging from grandparents on how I take care of my baby. Shit is annoying! Sorry venting 😡🤬

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Parent/ child love

Do you love your parents more or your children more?

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Grandparents

Hi everyone. Tomorrow I go back to work and it’s the first day my parents have my son (age 1) for the full day. They raised me and I “turned out fine”. They were good parents, but things have obviously changed a lot in the last 3 decades. Things that you would think are common sense about looking after a baby so...

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Step parent PR

Hi random question has anyone helped a step parent with getting parental rights in order to help their partner with their step child? We are thinking about this for the long run . But the step parent does above & beyond for the child, even attending appointments etc . Can anything like this be arranged?

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Family party

Am I unreasonable for not wanting my 3 month old passed around family members to be held, at a party? Being made to feel as though I am paranoid and too anxious?

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Egg grading

I’m going in tomorrow for my retrieval and am quite anxious about the health of my eggs at 43. How soon do you find out what they are graded at? And any success stories with more mature eggs?

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Visitors

Before my baby was born, my partner and I shared rules with immediate family for being around our newborn, at least for the first 21 days of his life. I'm usually a bit of a people-pleaser so setting these boundaries was actually kinda difficult for me. My baby is now 11 days old, and some family friends are wantin...

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Sweep

Just wondered what people's experiences were? Successful or not? How many did you have? Any other info / advice? Thanks :) x

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Parenting styles

Are u are team gentle parenting or team old school parenting or both?

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Help!

Hi! I’m not sure if this is allowed but I need help! I am mixed (puerto rican, black, Native American, and Irish) and my husband is a 1 generation ABC. His mom doesn’t like me. My husband said she told him it’s because of my race; she was raised very old school and taught to hate us. I know China is getting to be ...

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One and done family

Is anyone else a one and done family? I always said I wanted two but then I had my daughter (she is wonderful), but I know for a fact I don’t want to go through the aftermath of labor again. Anyway, how do you feel about this with your family? I have a sense of guilt and I am not sure exactly why. We have made this ...

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Stretch and sweep

What to expect from my sweep tomorrow? I am 39 + 5 have my first EVER sweep tomorrow? Can anyone who has had one give me an insight of what to expect during or/and after?

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1 or 2 kids?

Can I have your opinions and experiences please. I have 1 child, a toddler who is being assessed for autism. I always thought I'd have at least 2 kids but I feel I need to focus on my son and honestly I think he'd feel neglected if I had another child as he's so attached to me. What are your experiences of having 1...

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Second baby

I’m due to have my second baby this week and already have a toddler who turned 2 in October. I’m wondering if anyone is planning to have their older one stay with family for a while to have time to bond with the baby. I’m torn as I’m worried I’ll miss him and don’t want him to feel like we’ve sent him away. But also...

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Co-parenting

For those co parenting. Does your LO do overnights?

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