Questioning whether to leave or not
I want to leave my boyfriend. We have a child and live separate from each-other. Child stays with me. Every once in a blue something happens where I end of feeling like he would do something if he got angry enough before and after child (silly me). Always showed signs of emotional abuse, but got a aggressive recently with me while in public at a party at club/restaurant . Everything felt aggressive, the extra hard Taps on the shoulder when ready to go and the arm push to get past me in order to leave out of the room, angrily asking for my keys because he had something in my car, his vibe and big eyes he usually gets when mad. Something happened (he just wanted to
Leave in general when the taps happened , then felt like someone in our circle touched me inappropriately by time the arm push happened ) at the party to where he got mad and he wanted to get out of there before he reacted, long story short but i had no idea until afterwards. I’m questioning as to if I’m over reacting to this situation.
Our child is stopping me from leaving out of fear of the unknown. I haven’t allowed him our personal space but we Have met in public places to allow them to see each-other. Before this, I never trusted him to care for our child away by himself (neglectful) so now I fear of going to court and wonder if they would say 50/50 custody.
I am now uncomfortable as our child is in the
Middle and due to the neglectful nature and abuse. He is 3. Alot to this story. Feel stuck. Am I overreacting?
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@Lindsay Jael Thank you. We live separately but close to one another. I’m happy you were able to get away. This is all scary. I often feel in denial because I don’t have bumps and bruises but I felt very uncomfortable and unsafe when this all happened. I haven’t filed any reports or protective orders. May I ask how did your abuse start off?
If you can, go to a domestic violence center for counseling and legal support. They'll help you escape the abuse safely and it helps to have domestic abuse awareness advocates on your side rather than leaving the abuser on your own like I did. I got lucky as my abuser took a flight to visit his family and I sent an email while he was in flight, but there's still abuse from others and I could have been free from all of it if I went to a domestic abuse center for help.