Pregnant but partner doesn't want me to keep.
So I'll be the first to admit we've only been together 17 months. So not long atall, I have children from my previous relationship a few years back. He also has a child.
However here I am, when I told him he sort of just jumped straight to " I don't want it and saying how I wouldn't cope etc and how like a baby would ruin everything , and he doesn't want it. And we could in the future" I sort of felt as if I had no choice.. after a week I decided to say how I felt ( I struggle with confrontation) and told him how I basically wanted to have the baby, and if he didn't then I would not expect anything from him and I generally mean that I'm not a horrible person, I wouldn't want him to feel trapped and that's the whole truth, I love the children I do have and there my life. After I said all of this he said he couldn't go through life knowing he had a child and not bother and just told me again about myself, making me feel ashamed to want it I guess.. but I just don't know where to go from here, am I completely wrong for how I feel? I don't want him to feel like he has no choice I know it's such a huge thing for anyone, or do I have a right to feel this way without it looking like I'm trying to intentionally cause any stress to anyone else 😪😪😪
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Hello 👋🏾 There's always risks in having sex. He had a choice before having sex with you to determine if he would be prepared to have a baby, if a baby were to occur. I don't think it's right for anyone to have consensual sex and make their sexual partner feel bad for becoming pregnant with their baby. I get that you may feel it would be best to raise the child on your own because of how he feels about the situation... but I don't think it's wise to choose to not have the help of the father of the child unless there is a violent/neglectful/ really terrible situation that can't be easily resolved. It is difficult raising children, especially alone. At the end of the day you should take his feelings into consideration but you are the one carrying the baby.... so ultimately you should have the final decision if a compromise isn't met while remembering this is a lifetime decision either way.
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