I’m at a loss

I think a straight man would have replied telling him that's not appropriate/doesn't want to see it/maybe straight up fuck off, so I wouldn't say your BD is straight. However I'd be extremely annoyed that he didn't tell this man he has a partner and doesn't want to see nudes. Id consider this cheating for sure. I hope you're okay :((

@Dee I’m pretty sure he knows that we’re together and that we have a baby. Definitely not okay in the slightest

Id be telling my BD not to have any contact at all with that man. I can imagine you are upset and angry too. Have you told him what you've found yet?

@Dee No, he’s at work. I won’t see him until I got to pick him up in the morning. I genuinely don’t even know how to bring it up bc I was snooping through his ipad after playing some games.

Communicate with him about it ask him does he know you saw this just try to get him where he’s calm but honestly red flags here but the truth is better

Honestly girl you have 2 choices you can either talk to him about it or ignore everything because if you tell him he will properly run away from the relationship between you guys Or accept and forgive him That definitely is cheating? Imagine a girl was sending you nudes and you liked it you entertained it He’s entertainh it and if he can hide this who knows what else he can hide

That's definite red flag! I wouldn't be able to keep it secret from him. I wood have to tell him I was snooping and ran across his messages and WTH... Have your ever had thoughts about his sexuality in the past?

@Bounette Not until a couple months ago. He started constantly “joking” about being gay and you can only say it so much before somebody might believe you and at this point it feels like all signs are pointing to him actually being gay/bisexual.

I am so sorry you are in this position to begin with. But whatever you decide to do, know that your BD's behavior is not of a straight male. The fact that he hearted the comment is a huge concern. You have every right to feel uncomfortable!! I understand getting even is very tempting - but that'll just make this situation a lot messier.

You should talk to him. Is obvious on the text message. Just incase he tries to act like he didn’t know what to do. (Maybe I shouldn’t have deleted it) means he seen those already 🧐 to add here you go, as if he was asked for them. I personally wouldn’t start the conversation by telling him what i seen. I would ask him whats going on to see if he owns up to it on his own. Then bring up that conversation.

These are not red flags. He’s exchanging nudes and hearting kiss emojis from this man, he is very obviously having an affair.

@Gin As far as I know he hasn’t sent anything. The guy originally deleted the one he sent and then proceeded to send 2 more.

Yeah your husband is leading this gay man on because he likes the attention from him or he is having an affair with him already. Either way it is NOT okay.

Gay as fuck. Period. I dated a guy that was low key gay and didn’t know it until we broke up. Run.

@Kate Thankfully we’re not married

That's not just sending nudes that's sending videos and the fact that ur partner didn't tell him that's not OK and just let it carry on says to me it's probably not the first time his seen it or he generally is enjoying it/wanting it the fact that it's gotten this far is incredible alarming I'd say you need to confront him just say u accidentally came across the messages (you was gunna log into ur account on there but his cams up first and that's what you saw) or something along those lines but even if u can't come up with a accidental way u ended up on it you need to confront him before you get hurt any worse if he has a bad reaction remind him you are pregnant and emotions, moods and feelings will be up and down all over the place and it's quite common for pregnant women to randomly get paranoid about anything and everything but either way u are valid in how you are feeling and he should not be entertaining this guy weather or not he works with his guy he should respect you and ur relationship more ...

/enough to tell this guy it is un professional to be talking that way and sending that stuff and that he respects ur relationship to much to entertain this guys crush on him and to keep the relationship as professional as possible especially when you are carrying his child x

I consider this cheating! That man sent your partner nudes & your partner did not speak up about how that was inappropriate or uncomfortable. That’s the bigger picture for me! It’s OK for him to be questioning his sexuality or not knowing his sexuality but it’s not OK for him to not speak up when another man or even a woman is sending him shit like that! It looks like it’s time for communication & possibly even a break. It takes a while for someone to come to terms with their sexuality & it seems like he needs time to really think about it. It also seems like he needs time to work on speaking up & being faithful cause you can see in the messages that he liked what the guy said

I mean, that’s cheating, no? If a woman was sending him nudes that would not be acceptable so why’s it different for a man? Especially if he’s not telling him that it’s not okay! I would have a calm chat with him and find out what’s going on but does seem very suspicious to me!

Be careful. Some men get so embarrassed they try to harm you, or will down the line since you know such a big secret!