This is very similar to what I went threw with my baby’s dad. But we dated for 6 months and got pregnant we both live in Canada. I think people should chose if they want an abortion. He tried to force me to get an abortion but I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t kill my baby when I can raise her and love her. He was yelling at me all the time verbally abusing me and sometimes throwing things. So my mom and sister came to help me pack everything while he was at work and take me to my home town. Then I would still see him cuz we are trying to become a good couple for the baby. He would still yell at me every months and the baby could hear everything while she was still inside growing and she could feel I was so sad. I would always tell her they I will never let anything bad happen to her and I will always be there for her no matter what. I did better being safe with my family. Having people that will help you and baby stay safe is the best thing to do. Now her dad sees us on most weekends.
My baby’s dad doesn’t help much but at least he sees her. He can still get mad about other people stuff and it scares me and gives me flash back and I never want my baby to feel scared like that. So I can’t move back with the baby’s dad right now. Maybe one day but I’m preparing for if I can never move back with him. I’m very lucky because even after everything my baby is so happy. I have really bad postpartum depressed right now. I have had depression since 13 and wanted to kill myself many times so I know the feeling. Sometimes I feel like a bad mom for that but I keep going cuz I have to protect my baby so she never feels those things. I love her more than anything, she is the reason I live now. Even on days I feel so bad I can push myself to care for her. It’s so hard but I know it won’t be for ever and she is worth keeping safe. She is innocent.
Imagine that all those negative things he says to you, are really how he feels about himself. You are not lazy, he is. You are not mean, he is. You are not ungrateful, he is.
I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through that. Can you check and see if there might be some resources that can help you for the sake and safety of you and your child I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through that.
Hurt people, hurt people. The way people treat others is a reflection of what they have going on inside. Francesca is absolutely right, everything he’s saying to you is really how he feels about himself, just won’t admit it and in turn blames you so that he doesn’t have to take accountability
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Hey just try to stay strong for the next few weeks . Don’t feed into his drama or take the things he say too personal. At this point just focus that you want to relax and have a healthy baby. Then you can figure out how you want to proceed. Also check if there is any resources for pregnant women.