Am I being unreasonable?

I would say no. I had to be the same with my family, they asked to visit next week and I said no, 1) if baby isn’t here I don’t want to be hosting and 2) if baby is here we want a week to adapt. It’s not unreasonable at all

I’m due my first baby and I’ve said the same thing to all family just so we can have time to enjoy the newborn bubble and start to adjust.

I’ve said atleast a week, we only get this stage with the baby once, your body will also be going through a lot even if you have the most straight forward birth so you need time, I know family want to bond etc but I’m not keen on having people over when we need family time x

Not unreasonable at all! My girl was born Friday morning and she's already had a couple visitors (my sister visited in hospital the afternoon after her birth and my mum was round for a couple hours yesterday and the day before) but I've been okay with that. If I hadn't been and had requested no visitors for a certain time, I'd expect that to be respected. We have had to put a boundary in with kids, we've asked not to bring my young nieces or my partner's young brother and sister round until she's at least a week old, and people have been fine with that!

I've said the exact same to my inlaws!!!! I want at least a week at home after the hospital to adapt and begin to recover so they've been told they can come to the hospital but home for a week is just us three

Not unreasonable at all, no one should be disrespecting your boundaries at all!

Definitely not unreasonable as were the exact same and have said for the first week at least we want to ourselves and the baby so we can get into our own routine! Both our families have been very supportive of that

If that's how you feel, I would ask your partner to let them know that you'd both like to have a week or so before visitors and will let them know when ok to visit. They shouldn't be saying they are coming to visit anyway, should be asking if it is okay. (After you had the baby) I have a feeling I'll be getting visitors as soon as I'm back from hospital ☹️

Thanks all, my in laws aren't the easiest to be around at the best of time and with emotions high and hormones all over the place I'm not sure how I will cope 😂

Mine came the next day but only sat for half hr and left. Short sweet visit which was much appreciated. My parents came the night i came home from hospital to help with our newborn. They spent 2 nights with us, helping me as i couldnt move around due to stitches. Mum was a great help with baby - i asked them to come help me those 1st few days. Then we spent a few days just us and then i went to stay at my parents house for a few weeks. My bro in law and wife came 1 week after the birth and stayed for a little while. Due to covid noone else came until we had a party for baby. I cant say no to his family so i get where youre coming from hun.

Get your husband to tell them “we’re not having visitors for at least xxx weeks”

We made the mistake of inviting lots of people around as soon as the first one was born, they were at home waiting because we had no idea what we were letting ourselves in for. I regretted it so much. So this time we are not having anyone around for at least a week and people just need to respect that ❤️

I wouldn’t say your being unreasonable at all. You will need all the time in the world to heal and settle at home so you should put your foot down and say no to any visitors until your ready. That’s just my opinion xx

It's not acceptable of them to invite themselves over at anytime, let alone saying if the baby is here! We originally said 2 weeks with our first but felt ok after 5 days or so. This time we just said we'll call when anything happens...