Loneliness

How do you handle the loneliness going through a divorce? My marriage was a living nightmare but I am struggling with loneliness. I was lonely in my marriage he refused to touch me, show me affection and when he did it felt really forced. It was not a happy marriage and people tell me I look so much happier these days. The relationship was emotionally abusive. All that being said, I am so lonely. I am trying to work on myself and really focus on me but some days the loneliness creeps in and it is awful and heartbreaking. How do you deal with it?
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I hear you! I really don’t want to date or feel ready to so I’m just trying to focus on myself and doing as much as possible to fill my cup. I’m going to the gym every day, writing and reading, listening to music, searching for work, networking and reconnecting with people I used to know, and surrounding myself with support as much as possible. It’s still hard but the more I focus on things that help me feel good the easier it is I’m also just thinking of it as something unavoidable. Something ends, you give space for yourself, and then new things enter to fill that space. But there will of course be a period of change and tumult. Anyone who’s ever been divorced must have felt the same

I would find connectedness asap to satisfy your needs, but it is a safe and healthy way.

Lean on God. Connect with urself! Ur baby. Ur family. That’s all u need

I spend most my time with my kids but I have a great cuddle buddy

Do not date! At least that's what I'm telling myself I don't want a partner because I'm lonely. I want to be fulfilled alone, and in all my excitement and adventure for life bump into my forever. Get comfortable in being alone, figure out how to fill your own voids. Again, my conversation with myself

Just busy yourself. Surround yourself with your friends and family. Focus on yourself. I know it can be lonely. It’s better to be alone than with the wrong person.

I’m lonely now and married. Only difference I imagine is not walking on egg shells anymore.

@Carolyne my ex has been an emotional terrorist since I filed. But there are courts and lawyers that step in. He can only cross so many boundaries

@Nasra I’m so sorry. Isn’t it unfortunate we deal with it, we put up with it and then we still have to deal with when we want to leave? as of being a parent isn’t hard enough and then you have to deal with that aspect as well and it’s just quicksand but to you at least you were doing something about it so we have good and bad days but there’s always something good and every day

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