Honestly, I have had the same experience. It’s best for you to let him go & start fresh & anew. Let someone find you that knows your worth. I can understand that maybe he was facing his own demons & needed space but he chose to do that alone when at that moment you needed him to help your child. The fights & arguments will continue & get worse because yall have experienced dark times together & it will come back each time there is a rough time between yall. I’m only saying this due to having the same experience… I stayed through my pregnancy & had fights , arguments & etc. if the love is real, take your time figure yourself out & enjoy your moment with your baby. Coparenting is recommended until you see that he is really mature & committed to you & your daughter love. 🤍
Oh hunny. Trust there are millions of single moms that raise kick ass kids I'm doing it. My mom did it with me. I didn't want to be a single mama. But my bd changed when I got pregnant and he made me miserable with his verbal attacks. Girl you dint want to be with someone who treats you bad. You want to show your baby you and her deserve better. You deserve the best. Chin up! You've got this!
I don't think anyone should stay together "for the kids". If you want your baby to see love...don't be with him and find someone who will show your baby how people should be loved. Once you get over him, you'll see how ridiculous considering staying with him was. You'll be just fine.
@Tiffany how do I coparent tho?
By simply minding your business. Let him do him but at the same time allow him to see his child. You have to remember we are all humans. Eventually your daughter will get to see who their parents really are. Focus on yourself & be the better version of yourself. If child support is needed then by all means do what u have to do. But u can not make a man be a father, he has to be ready for that . I co-parent & only message my BD about his kids because I know talking about anything else will start something. Ignore all the extra comments. It takes a village to raise a child .. if friends & family are willing to help then take up on that. Enjoy life while u can.
@Tiffany I do agree that talking only about the children is important because he speaks to his ex wife about things that don’t involve their kids and they would hang out and he’d do alot of stuff for her while I was pregnant and at the hospital after giving birth he prioritized her more than me. But it’s hard not bringing anything up cuz he doesn’t even ask how our daughter is doing so I’m like what’s more important than your daughter. I just never wanted my daughter to see her father in a bad light. I’m scared he’s gonna ruin it for himself with her. But I guess it’s not my job
@Zoé how do you separate your feelings with how your son feels. I’m scared that he’s not going to prioritize my daughter and she’s going to have a bad relationship with him. I never want her to think bad about her father. I know I can’t make him but I just want him to understand and try
As long as you do your part & be honest then you should have nothing to worry about. & no that’s not your job on how your child views another person. She will see that you were honest & did your best as a mom & provider. Stop stressing mommy, you are doing great! Remember that 🤍
You're not supposed to end up with everyone you date. This one was supposed to be a throw away, but you guys had a baby, which resulted in you maybe being together longer than you should have. This was probably never going to work out tbh.