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My mother passed away last week 😢😢. I have a 4 year old son who lived with her and trying to get him to understand she’s not coming back is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. My mother lived with me and my son for all of my son’s life. My son just keeps asking when is grandma coming home from the hospital and asking did the drs make her better now so she can come home . I told him she went with god now and he can speak to her whenever he wants but I know at 4 he doesn’t understand death. Where I am completely stuck at is if I should let him attend the funeral … I’m so torn because idk at the age of 4 if he would be able to handle it . Taking him to the funeral would also mean taking him to the viewing of the body and the burial . Has anyone dealt with something like this and if so did you feel it was traumatic for your young child

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I'm so sorry. I know the funeral has already passed and you've already had to make the hard decision. We have lost 2 pets in the last 6 months to old age. I know it's not the same but there is still absence in the home. With the first loss he was 3 1/2. We told him her body stopped working and she died. We explained that when you die your body can't be used any more but your spirit goes to heaven. He talked about the dog like she was still there for a while and we reminded him each time that she died and won't come back but we can talk about good memories. Then he would tell people she died and wasn't coming back. Then when the cat died he accepted it and said "But now we don't have any pets." Later he asked "If Mo could walk again with Penny". I think they understand more than we give them credit for. They just have a hard time expressing it.

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