Demoralizing Doctor's Appointment

Long Post! We took our 15 months old (soon to be 16 ) to the pediatrician for a wellness check. And like always we're highly demoralized and worried 😟 He has this weird way of talking that feels so judgemental and incompetent as parents. We're first time parents of a lovely boy who also happen to be immigrants here doing our best to raise him well. He everytime brings up our origin and pointing out how flawed it is despite himself belonging to the same community. It'd be definitely called racism if he wasn't. I'll not deny that our son has a temperament and is only comfortable with us. He has strong stranger anxiety along with the separation anxiety. So he always ends up crying at the doctor's Office and only wants us to hold him and leave asap. He always has been on low percentile in terms of physical growth. His solids journey is going okayish with 3 meals and 1-2 snacks daily also with 500-700 ml whole Milk. He's very active, curious and fast learner. He understands almost everything we say but follows instructions selectively. But according to the pediatrician everything is wrong with him. His behaviour, his language development, him preferring soft foods and finding comfort in only us. Is that real? Aren't all the kids like that? Won't any kid be uncomfortable if treated with hostility like his pediatrician? He highlighted all the problems without any solution. The only recommendation was to enroll him in a Strong Start program which will start in September. We've already registered for that. I'm not sure what I want from this post. Just some empathy and maybe that all isn't that wrong and our son is fine and will be fine. Thanks for listening!

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Our pediatrician always makes us feel stupid and incompetent so I can relate to mean doctors. Separation anxiety and anger is totally normal for the first 2 or 3 years.

I'm so sorry this is your experience! Every kids temperament is different and your pediatrician should not be making you feel this way. I would most certainly find another - I know this is hard. But if you're always feeling demoralized I'd wonder how great the care is ?

That is perfectly normal Garima. Kids are like this and you are doing a great job. Everything will be fine. Amay will grow out of separation anxiety soon. Hang in there! Sending some positive vibes! There is purecare clinic in langley accepting new patients. I have been there and doctors are good. You can try finding a new family doc for your LO.

@Taylar Thanks! Appreciate your response.

@Stacey Thanks Dear! Yes, he does that each time. We're seriously considering switching to someone else even if it's hard to find.

@Lyndsay Thanks for sharing! I agree about each child being different but in my personal experience all medical professionals here have a generalized viewpoint. They don't even consider race and genetics. We'll be asking for a new referral from our physician soon. I wish to find someone better.

@Nikita Thank you so much Nikita for your kind words! We're satisfied with our physician so will ask him to refer to a new pediatrician. This doctor has tons of bad reviews and has made so many parents feel like shit.