I would just tell them that you're a maybe and decide a few days out. If that doesn't work for them, then I would just not go. I ended up having an emergency c for my first and then planned for my twins but a longer recovery. I'm not sure I'd have wanted to do a big event (depending how big it is) after. Plus your bub won't have had any needles yet and you might have to fend off people.
Thankyou I wasn't sure if I was just being dramatic lol thankyou for your advice
Personally I’d be skipping the wedding. Maybe your partner could just go and you could do a nice lunch with them before or after the wedding sometime to celebrate in a more appropriate setting for you and a fresh Bub!