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Did any other first time moms deal with friends absolutely disappearing after you announced your pregnancy? The one really close friend I had has just dropped off the face of the earth and I feel like I’m always having to initiate contact 🙃 I’m definitely an introvert and can live with my fiancé being my only friend but it feels especially lonely without anyone else 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Yes it feels like since I can’t drink they stopped hanging out I see them out to eat/ drinking I get no invite 😭. One friend kept sending me places that mainly had drink deals and the last time we planned to eat somewhere she flopped rescheduled then flopped again 🫤. Another one said she feels like a bad friend because we haven’t hung out. 🤷‍♀️

Yeah. It didn’t bother me that much, our priorities are different 🤷‍♀️. No interest in partying every weekend. But i did experience some loneliness. I started exploring my inner self and found something’s I wanna work on. I started reading again, decided I wanna dig deeper into my faith and joined a bible study. I’ve met some amazing god bearing women. Also looking forward to fit some gym time once I reduce my work hours.

Yes! I have one friend that still checks on me occasionally but it’s still mostly me initiating. My hubby became my best friend but he travels for work and works late so that’s lonely too. I did meet 2 friends from work before I quit to be a SAHM that I talk to occasionally but I rarely talk to anyone let alone see them. That’s why I got this app

I lost all my friends! First several months were lonely but now I’ve just made like minded friendships

I have ONE friend that reaches out. We’re both so busy but we have a snap streak so we check in on there daily and do a call once a week. I can’t go to the bars anymore and to be honest I have no interest in the bars, I’m working towards finding mom groups in my area

lol I have 0 friends and 0 family

I didn’t experience that with my 2 best friend BUT I’ve seen it happened with other friends so That can definitely happen. & it just shows how true your friendship was with them. If friends leave while being pregnant they were never truly your friend.

Yes my closest Bestfriend of almost 20 years and I basically don't speak at all these days it's sad but it's life some people are only there for you when you're there for them, but when it's their turn to return the favor, they're are nowhere to be found

My friend is going through IVF and has had two failed transfers since I’ve been pregnant and it’s really put a strain on our friendship. I hate she missed my entire journey but I know she needs to heal and take care of her mental health also so I’ve been very understanding.

This is actually common. I think it’s because they think what’s the point of hanging out if you’re pregnant and can’t do too much? I would never do my pregnant friends like that cause I remember how lonely it was for me.

I have one friend who told me she was pregnant around the time I told her, and after she had to terminate (medical issues and bc failed) she hasn’t said much to me. I have another friend who calls me more now that I am pregnant then she ever did before she had her daughter (if that makes sense). I only have two friends and both of them already have kids.

Oh yeah and they all got gone after delivery.. lol

Yep they all just disappear

I've been lucky and had a smooth pregnancy so still enjoyed my social life but after birth some friends have disappeared 😕 however most have actively made effort to come around or stay in contact...motherhood esp ftm can be very lonely with minimal adult interaction so I plan to join baby sensory or massage classes to socialise with other mums too. X

Yes. My Very Best Friend. My husband and I just knew she was going to be baby's God mother. After positive pregnancy test, She was the 2nd Person I called after my Own Mother and Before my own Father. She was nice enough and seemed excited, but I had noticed she wasn't blowing up my phone how we normally would do (daily) but I shrugged it off. She stop answering my calls/text as quickly as normal, to the point where when I finally asked her to be Baby's God mother, it was thru a voice message. I had literally waited until the Day we got baby's Gender confirmation to ask her to be God mother. I was Sooo Excited. But after sending that voice message I never heard from her again. 🥺 I reached out to her a year later on her Birthday to wish her a Happy birthday, I received a thank you reply and nothing else. 😶

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Yup. 🙋🏻‍♀️ Especially since a lot of my friends weren’t interested in family life at all so they dropped me like a hot potato lol. You just have to put yourself out there and join a local mom group or take your little one to story time at the library once they’re born. It’s much easier to make mom friends once you have a kid on the outside.

Same thing happened to me. None of my friends have kids so I expected it. I just made sure they stood on that after I had my girl. No support for me, no contact with my baby.

I think what shocks me the most about it is although she doesn’t have her own kids, she babysits for quite a few families and has many other friends with children that she hangs out with on the regular. Although expected from others, it didn’t make sense from her 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Jalaiha that’s exactly where I’m at with it, if you weren’t there before the baby was born you may as well uphold that after birth

My bestfriend bawled when I told her I was pregnant, she said she was so excited and proud of me! I got pregnant in June of 2023 and announced in July. The last time we hung out was June. Our boyfriends are brothers so we went out for dinner and I told her I was off work due to severe prenatal depression, she still never texted or put in effort to see me. She cried when we found out the gender because she was so happy. Still never texted or put in effort. Now she calls herself my daughters auntie

I definitely have some friends i hear from less now baby is here, but on the other side I have some friends I didn't speak to that often before who now message all the time checking in on us and have been so supportive

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