I'm having this problem now as well with my son. I got into an argument with this old lady who refused to acknowledge my son as black because he looks only Asian. It's pissing me off. I'm his mother, and I'm deep, dark black, and these people have absolute nerve to deny his blackness. The good news is this is an older people thing. Young people now are so loud and outspoken about who they are. Your baby girl will be, too. Don't even worry. If she doesn't, it's her choice later on. This should be the last thing we worry about. As she gets older, teach her. Do your part now and she will do hers later 🖤
@Keisha but your son isn’t black though if he is mixed race . He is mixed not black nor white not Asian mixed
You are mixed and your daughter is mixed but she only has 25% black genes in her . You can teach her how to embrace her heritage though . My son is mixed and I am teaching him my native language and I am ensuring he is embracing both cultures
My daughter is mixed, im white, her dad is black, she has blonde curly hair and blue eyes. My partner refers to our daughter as being black, and he teaches her about his heritage. My older kids are mixed white/oriental, and its only recently they have wanted to know about their heritage. Your daughter is mixed, and you should teach her whenever you can about her heritage. Knowledge is always power
@Tarie i obviously know he is mixed hence the mixed race group...
@Keisha but you are calling him black 😆
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@Tarie I said she said he is only Asian and denied his blackness. He has black in him. He is black and Korean. Not just Korean because his look is Asian. I shouldn't have to explain this in detail 😅
Am black and I look white lol and both sides of my family are Jamaican and my partner is white man and my kids look white especially the last one I just had but I aways till them they are mixed race and my oldest one aways tells people my mum is black she just looks light lol and I always tell them about my Jamaican side aways
Hiii I’m kinda in the same boat as you are. I’m mixed white & Puerto Rican. My PR family is very Americanized I’m 3rd generation and my family doesn’t speak Spanish (I do, but that’s outside of them. Due to childhood friends & later work) my partner and child’s father is Mexican first generation and families very traditional. I didn’t think it would be so hard to blend but it has been
I just think that talking about all sides but also being honest about being white passing & how they may walk thru the world
@Tarie this is the shit I’m worried about “only _%” I can’t believe we’re still doing that, genetics and race is so much more complex than that, that we have to left go of percentages, its just mixed surely.
@Keisha I hear you and get you. I am already preparing my toddler who is mixed
I think it’s ok to call her mixed but understand that most people will refer to her as white. I’m in the same situation, light skinned and mixed race expecting a baby with a white man. You should definitely educate her about her ethnicity but understand that she is probably mostly white genetically. She won’t have the same experiences as a darker skinned mixed race person but that doesn’t take away from her ancestry, it’s good to teach her about her black side as well
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@Tarie Just because her mom is only part black doesn't mean her genes are only that amount. Genetic testing shows this. Doesn't matter your appearance
I always think of how well embraced people of colour can be to the various shades of black heritage. Of course, this varies depending on the country you live in. My daughter didn't look like me when she was born, and a nurse mentioned it. I was just happy to have a healthy, beautiful baby. If you focus on what people think, it will impact your life. If possible, surround yourself and your daughter with people who embrace you for you and not your appearance
I'm sorry, I just read the first sentence and automatically thought omg how you're probably freaking beautiful!!! But I'm so sorry it's been a struggle. My son looks white but is part black and hearing that as his mama is tough. You embrace that heritage with her though mama! I'm the white one and I still make it a point to educate my son on his culture and his ancestors it's so important. She will become so confident , my son tells everyone that calls him white "well I'm special actually because I'm black and white" he use to say god loves him more but I had to change that as it's not that kind lol