Cryptic messages from mother in law
My husbands grandad is not very well - well into his nineties and so expected but still very sad obviously.
My mother in law keeps sending cryptic messages on our WhatsApp group saying things like “grandad not doing well” “grandad not good” and I just think it’s really not helpful for my husband as it makes him worry but he doesn’t get the detail of what is going on. So then he will go and visit and his grandad is actually fine.
Or if he calls her she’s like why are you calling me I’ve already updated you.
I was almost on the point of saying something tonight just to say please send more detail on how he is because my husband naturally jumps to think he is about to pass away. I’ve held my tongue so far as she’s obviously sad but she does this all the time with other things too. We live about an hour from them so not too far but also not super easy to just pop over and see what is going on now we have our little one.
Any advice?!
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Thank you glad it’s not just me you feel like you’re going crazy sometimes!
My MIL does this too. My FIL had cancer a few years ago but it’s gone now. My mil says things like “you never know when it will come back and it can turn into bone cancer.” It’s usually in response to us saying we can’t make it to something she’s invited us to. I take it as manipulation/ a guilt tactic as well bc there’s no actual signs his cancer is coming back.
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Just came to say, my MIL does this too! But its about her & her husband’s health. She says she’s started new medication or been to GP because hse’s been unwell but then wont elaborate on what is wrong so my hasband fears she/they are seriously unwell! Definitely a manipulation tactic!