Holding newborn

It’s really not about you it’s about speaking up for your baby who can’t speak up for themselves. I think if you change your mentality to that it could be helpful. I’ve told everyone you can meet him but I’m not letting people hold him yet. Send it via text in advance if you Have to. Then let them decide

Yes to what Irene said and I feel like if you frame it as what is going to keep baby healthy they should understand!

I know I'm going to be in a similar boat cuz im a people pleaser, but my husband is an "asshole" haha so I'm going to make sure he knows the boundaries I want in place and I'll have him help enforce... im not sure what your husband is like, but maybe he could help enforce?

Let them know before they come visit and have your husband be enforcement. His job is to protect you and the baby making sure you are safe and comfortable.

@Moira I wish that was the case, he actually disagrees with me and thinks it’s fine to let people hold our first child

If you're afraid of being mean, try something like "that's okay, mama would like to enjoy her new baby right now!" I know it's hard to advocate for yourself, but I believe in you! I pray your husband chooses to help despite him disagreeing

@Carly could you and hubby sit down and discuss it? Maybe find some sort of middle ground and compromise something you're both on with? Like wait until baby is 2 months old? Or make sure people wash their hands and wear a mask before holding?

You have to get that out your system. We are adults I definitely understand bcus that was me. Speak up for yourself! Don't be scared just let it out . Just let them know you can come see baby but kisses ,holding etc is too much or just wait untilmyou are ready for them to hold him and then let them come by if that makes you feel better.

For me when my son is born for the first month or 2 the only people able to meet him will be the ones holding him🩵 helps with the boundaries and a lot of my friends understand(some aren’t mothers just yet)