I don’t like my step kids

I have the same issue with mine. When they start demanding things, I'll say what do you say? Or if they get short and snotty with me. I'll tell them they aren't allowed to talk to me like that. My bf doesn't correct them, but I always do, even if they're talking to him. They've recently starting being very picky with food and have even said what we made for them is gross. Ex: grilled cheese with the "wrong" kind of cheese, pizza rolls cooked in the oven and not air fryer. They are so spoiled when it comes to eating exactly what they want. They will refuse to eat. It gets so exhausting having to constantly correct them but their mom and my bf don't care. My baby will grow up with manors and respect. And won't be so damn picky. Lol

Sounds like you’re in the same situation I was in. If it feels like you’re fighting against their bio parents. It’s time to take a step back. If you feel like your involvement is doing more harm than good. It’s time to take a step back. Look up disengaging as a step parent or NACHO parenting.

Can I just say.. I know exactly where your coming from, been with hubby 24yrs now, his 2 boys were 3 & 7 when we got together (7y.o not even his bio child) so the disrespect I copped was next level! Let me just say the relationship we have now is amazing.. He knows hubby's not his bio Dad, still calls me his stepmum, will call me before he calls his own mum, esp to borrow money without judgement etc, when his having bf issues, picked us up from the airport recently and he remembers all the little things we did for them as kids even though we didn't HAVE to🙌 Trust me I wouldn't of had a nice word to say about him 20yrs ago but it was just a phase, it will pass 🫣

@Kym ♡ thank you for saying this. I've really been struggling with everything recently. Even considered ending it, even though I love my bf so much. It gets to be a lot some days. This gives me hope.

@Ashley honestly had tears in my eyes writing it 🥲 but tears of joy to know how different things are these days.. eldest s/s is now 30 and still comes for sleepovers even when he has to share a room with his 3y.o brother who still wakes through the night!😆😆😆

Don't worry about their manners. Don't worry about whether they choose to eat. Your job is to provide acceptable food and make sure they don't burn down the house or kill each other. Be polite and kind and let the rest roll off your back like water off a duck. "Kids these days" have never had manners, except for your kids and mine who will be saints. 😉 The kids don't need "home training," they just need to be alive when their father returns. In the long term, you will do more by doing less. Focus on your baby. 👶🥰

Mine are the exact same, bad attitudes, no respect just like their mother. It makes it hard to like them.

@Bonny This! I made the mistake of being way too involved from the beginning and it resulting in dad getting very lazy with his parenting. It became very stressful to me when I felt I was fighting against him especially after I had two of my own. So I just stopped. They have two able parents. It’s not my responsibility to make sure they have the things they need, act the way they should, get where they need to be. It’s theirs. So I just stopped being involved completely. I treat them as if they were my niece and nephew or my friends kids rather than my children. I don’t discipline them but obviously treat them with love and kindness. I will correct behavior if it’s dangerous or reinforce what dad says. That’s it.

It’s time to disengage, sorry to hear this.

My SD 10th birthday was this past week and we had her a pool party and she looks at the gifts and said only three ?! They were gift bags and she got ten gifts including new shoes and a new phone ! I was so embarrassed by her comment. She does this every Christmas, Easter, birthday everything ugh. I don't even want to get her anything else ever again.