Feeling sad and lonely 😢

You're not alone ❤️ I've felt very similarly to you. I get very anxious to be out and about with the little one and I see other mums doing it so well and just feel like I haven't tried enough. My little one also struggles to nap on hey own and to feed on the go (hates the bottle and very distracted breastfeeding) so I've felt a bit stuck

I feel this I’ve just started maternity baby not here yet but I feel The Lonely ness xxxx

My favourite place is Asda 🤗😂 not because I actually like it, but when my LO is irritated she likes to be out the house (I could go for a walk) but I’m lazy and would rather go get the essentials + more new baby clothes for her 😂 it’s amazing what half an hour out the house can do. She enjoys looking around, I give her things to hold and makes it feel like I’ve done atleast something productive (as I’ve got the little bits needed for house) I also thought my maternity would be vastly different- lunches out etc. but reality is I’m home mostly with baby too. I go to quite a few baby groups, all friendly mums however haven’t actually made any ‘friends’ I do however have a best friend that had twins same time I did, so I do speak to her most days.

I find its easier to be out of the house at least a few days a week even walking to get a coffee. The smaller baby classes are easier to make friends in my experience, instead of mums and tots, as you do introductions so you can figure out who has a similar age baby and use that to start chatting. You need to be the one to ask ‘who is coming for coffee girls Im knackered’ as many people are too shy. Get onto the peanut group for your area too and post about a meet up with other local mums. You arent alone but it really helps to be proactive xx

I am definitely with you on this!! And feel awful for admitting it or feeling it sometimes. I also split with my ex when little one was 4 months old and I find some days I am soo lonely! And seeing families out and about together can be really hard so as much as I want to go out sometimes I feel worse out too!!! 😳 weekends I find even harder cos anyone I do know is with their other halves and everywhere is full of what appear to be happy families. I thought I'd also maybe get used to the few hours I have when little one goes to his Dad but it's just as bad if not worse cos i miss baby!! 😔 xx

You’re not alone! I go back to work end of next month and I can’t wait!! I just want that bit of my life back and to be around adults again. I’m a single mum and have been since I found out I was pregnant and had zero support since having my son. He’s 8 half months now and the longest I’ve had to myself since having him is an hour and that’s it. And he’s a very very hard baby. I love him to pieces he’s my world but he cries and moans every single day.. let me not even start about the tantrums he has too! 😂 maternity leave can feel very lonely!

What I’ve learnt is that everyone has their troubles but some people just don’t share that and social media would have you believe everyone’s baby journey was fairy tale like. The reality is totally different. Also I’ve learnt that having great babies isn’t an indication of what the future holds. All parents have challenges. Some parents just have an unfair number of challenges at the beginning. Hopefully it will get easier for you. I’ve actually stopped going to one of the classes my baby enjoys because I just didn’t feel as though I was making friends. I just felt awkward and no one was interested in going for coffee or whatever afterwards. The instructor was lovely but if I’m completely honest I go to the classes for me and my mental health. Going just made me feel much like yourself.

Thank you everyone, it is comforting to hear that I’m not the only one but I’m very sorry to hear there are those feeling the same ❤️