Feeling resentful
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@Alyssa do we have the same husband?! Seriously, I’ve become default parent as well and my husband just says “ well she wants to spend time with you…” like bro, she’s a good time but my name isn’t on the custody papers
I feel this so deeply. Can the kids be a lot? Yeah. But they're like that because of their mom. It's so hard to be in a relationship with someone who had a whole other family before we got together. I didn't realize how much I'd have to deal with.
@Kristen Right! I honestly had to fully disengage and we’re still in the process of settling into it and it hasn’t been great. He says yes to everything, doesn’t hold them accountable for their actions and have no responsibility-not even for their own personal things. There’s a lot of last minute planning between him and their mom because he likes to avoid conversations, laundry’s not getting done consistently. It’s a lot but I just have to remind myself. It’s not my responsibility. I need to focus on my kids considering he’s rarely home and when he is I’m still doing the majority of things for my kids. I can’t take on two other kids that he should be having responsibility for. It’s too much-and I tried.
I agree. It’s not the kids at all in my situation either. My resentment comes from their father. He refuses to take responsibility for his children and too much is falling on me. I always told myself I would never have children with someone who already had children. I often wish I would have stuck to that. Again, it’s not the kids at all they’re great. It’s just challenging and not really the life I envisioned.