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I hear there are a lot of moms who are like this but I can’t tell they seem so busy with life.. aww how sweet twins🌻🌻 I have 5 girls 13,12,7,6 and 7 months and I get they won’t be babies for ever but I guess at my rate I keep having the babies😂😂.. I enjoy them all don’t get me wrong but I’m still too an adult human that need some adult time in between kids all day.. what keep you afloat?
What’s keeping me afloat atm is just getting sleep as the baby stage is hard with not sleeping but i’m getting help! Twin life is so hectic and i’m generally exhausted so don’t know how i’m even gonna have the energy for netball! What are your hobbies? Can’t you do abit more now as yours are that bit older and at school? xxx
Girl I feel this!!! I feel like all I do is work and be a parent & wife it like takes a mental toll on me ya know!!! I would be more than happy to be friends even long distance!!!
@sam I totally get the sleep long part is a little hard for me cause I’m not a big sleeper especially someone else is sleep pattern😞 so I get whatever rest I can.. yes now that all my older ones are in school it’s okay. But I have the little one.. I don’t have help or much at all as I moved to a new city solo and don’t and haven’t met anyone.. so just me and the kids basically I hate that I moved but I thought it was for the better but the loneliness does settle in time from Time
@Lexi definitely takes a toll on your mental health thank goodness I haven’t experienced pp although my little spell I’m having now to write this post, I’m still able to manage my day to day KID MOMMY DUTIES WITH NO PROBLEM, I feel like I’m suffering they seem fine.. and to me that’s just not enough we definitely can exchange numbers if you’re up for it I don’t mind
I have a friend with some older kids who told us once that, since her youngest kids had recently started school, she had no idea what to do with her time. Her life had been so centered and focused around her kids that she had like no hobbies. She was excited to actually find other things to do with her time again. It does pass! Kids get older and they need you less. It may feel for awhile like mothering is all you are, but it isn't that way forever!
I definitely feel this! I am struggling with change in identity, not feeling like myself. I love taking care of my daughter and spending time with her, but really struggle with anything and everything else.
@Melissa with all due respect I think we all know that by now and can agree they will get older some day.. but really what do you do in the moments they are young?? You just don’t have a social life or any hobbies or adult interactions until they are older.. and in my case I guess stop having kids😂😂because I had the same thing going with my first 2 who are now 13/12 and when they started school I was like I’m ready to interact didn’t have any hobbies etc but I was going to try it out then I became pregnant wasn’t planned.. fast forward I was SAHM still no support hobbies adult interactions.. fast forward 5 years later I’m like off to school they go, now let me figure me out and nowwwwwwww I had another little one.. so let me guess( stop having kids ) then when my last one goes to school then figure out what I can do with me???
@Urba what advice have you gotten?
Feel the exact same way, all I'm doing is being a mum atm. Hardly even know who I am if I'm honest. My little boy is 8 but has special needs
@Kay okay, fair enough, just trying to offer some perspective. 🤷 I still try to do things for myself, but right now it's little things like taking a bath or going for a bike ride when I can. My mom also takes the kiddo every other week or so, so we get a break then which helps.
@Melissa I totally understand.. But I ask again?! some may find showering, walks alone doing your hair make up etc.. helpful but for those like me who can still do that stuff while being a mom, what do you/ can you do with other adults??!! And when you meet them what can you share! I think you didn’t really understand my post.. I’m a SAHM, so not working to converse with co-workers(ADULTS), not in any church or groups kid/not kid friendly, don’t have hobbies, don’t watch tv besides baby shows and only dateline for me, live away from family but they wasn’t help anyway.. parks are full of parents but no connections for whatever reason,just kids n me school n home not more than a hi in the mornings for school drop off if they mention anything no -school related I pretty much can’t relate because I’m clueless and kidsONLY.. hope that’s clear enough
Oh, I see! You're thinking more in the sense of having adult relationships versus just being around the kids all the time. Not just free time and hobbies, but actually going out with people? I think I understand. Sorry, I must have misinterpreted before. For me, I get my adult interaction from online gaming. After kiddo goes to bed sometimes, or if my husband takes her for a few hours, or my mom has her and I get an evening off, that's when I have my adult time. I have an online group I've been playing with for years and while I definitely don't have as much time as I used to, it's enough to at least feel like I can be around adults and be who I used to be sometimes.
I’ve never related to a post so much! No one can prepare you for how rough motherhood can be and how easy it is to get lost in it.
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Girl. I am right there with me. Being a stay at my home for the last 3 years has been extremely exhausting. I am completely lost in being a mom as well. I don't know anything else, I have started my job yesterday and it felt completely weird. I was extremely awkward and didn't really know how to calm my anxiety down.
@Melissa yes that. lol… See you have the online gaming so that’s a plus.. I don’t have anything else other than my kids.. when they are sleep I’m sleep sometimes before them… I find some adult interaction in appointments weird right?? lol the ones where the doctor is super nice and rant about their families or so but mindful that last 20/25 min at the most then it’s over, I don’t want to seem strange but I make a appointment to a doctor at least weekly for all specialist, plus I have 5 kids so they may need different doctors ect.. I dread weekends because nothings open besides stores and even when I go there those adults are normally not too friendly just trying to get in and out which is usually expected so yea what a life for me.. m sure a dr may have a diagnosis for that but it’s a simple fix.. just have adult humans to interact with regularly
@Victoria you see that’s how I feel and I’m not even working but when I try to interact with my kids teachers or old associates without kids or who has more social life it feels awkward weird I’m sure it will take time and getting used to to it, but I think it definitely needs to be having things in common with most adults so doing more seeing more getting out more without kids
@Kay I completely agree 💯
@Kay I feel you. Sorry I misunderstood!
😌 No worries
Come on over let's wine about it lol, being a mom of 5 kids is almost unbearable. My husband actually counts as one too. I haven't had a real solid girl friendship in 8 years! We moved twice right while I was starting to form connections but I hope we have found our forever home finally.
Feel exactly the same hun, all I do is mum atm, i’ve just had twins, and i’ve got a three year old it’s so full on!! but I am trying to back into netball, but my babies are beautiful and just told my mum about this post and she said we need to just enjoy these times because they won’t be small forever! So true! How old are little ones? Lots of love xxx