I feel so bad

Has he done something wrong? He has every right to be on it as you do

That's your decision, just trust you are making the right decision for you and your child. Also you can change it in the future if you feel you want to

@ShannonHe’s never there for her he comes 10 mins to see her, has never even bought a nappy for her, just on Tuesday and yesterday he spent like 3 hours with because he knows the appointment is close. His friend is more important, never help during my pregnancy by the end he was there to stay with me, and yhen he went back to his normal self

@Megan true I told him it’s not like I’m saying I am never going to put you, I said I am giving you a year to prove to me you going to be there his answer if you don’t put me now don’t put me never and I don’t have to prove you anything

Don’t feel bad at all, if he’s not a present father he don’t have rights to be on it, don’t mean anything . My ex isn’t going on mine he don’t deserve to. I haven’t seen him since 6 weeks pregnant and now 36 nearly, I ain’t about to let him try play daddy, and I’ve know him playing the same game for years so I should of known better. Do what’s right for you

If you don't put him on now, you have to pay a thousand to put him on in the future.

He then can’t deny he’s the father either if you go for child support as CSA will do a dna test if he tries to play that game and will make him pay for it when it’s proved it he is

@Shannon not true

@Jo it is

@Jo I honestly don’t need his money, I got all her stuff by myself from crib to nappy by myself I never asked him anything, he always tells me I will give you £100 every week and I never seen It. I did ask him a few times, once I opened her bank account I could deposit the money but every time is next week that I stopped asking it’s too close to begging

@Shannon It don’t my friend did it… it requires both parents there well did and signature and re print of the birth certificate

I got all my babys stuff but if you want him to legally pay I’m just saying it don’t make a different if he isn’t on it etc. He dont have rights without my permission to take her out the country etc if he was to see them etc and he’s just a sperm doner. From experience they never change. If he’s not any good now and not being preset and isn’t doing nothing for the child, I would just leave him off.

@Jo speaking of this he did say If I don’t put him on the BC he will kidnap her and I will never see her again, even tho I know it’s empty threats how do I know one day it can happen

Very mature of him. My ex used to say stuff like this too, or that he will go to court and make me lose my child to custody etc, boring, never happened. And threats like that is why I don’t regret

@Jo exactly I keep asking the same question, he’s never there, emotionally abusive but he doesn’t see it, I’m someone who has a soft heart that’s why I’m feeling like that, but I do also know if the table was reversed he wouldn’t let me see her

Do whatever you’re comfortable with. If you don’t want to do it, you shouldn’t feel like you’re forced to🫶🏾

Do not feel bad. No support and no effort to make a bond, you don’t owe him nothing. No offence it’s just a piece of paper so why does he want to be on it when he doesn’t even bother? Don’t let no one make you feel bad. I was in the same position with my first twelve years ago and if I wasn’t young and naive I’d of done the same thing and wish I did.

@Shannon no you don't 🤣🤣🤣 It's free to add the fathers details at any time so I dunno who told that BS