I did ask him for couple therapy but he is against it and he just refuses to face the situation. We dont have any abusive or bad situation so I dont want to leave the country as I dont want him to be away from his son he is not a bad parent for him.
I dont know what else to do to make this work and I tried everything but it takes two to make things work. Divorce its not the easiest way to solve things as it would take me a lot of effort to adjust but I cant accept this situation of having someone around with whom I just split bills. He has no interest to anything except being left alone and living with the benefits of having a clean house and warm food.
Is this familiar to you ... Feeling like it's all up to you ? The responsibility all on you or keeping love going ? What happened in his childhood that he shows up like a teenager? Can you have a honest conversation about what you've shared with us here - with him ?
Is couples counseling an option? Have you talked to him about how you feel? You said he would be less present for your son, is that a bad thing? I obviously don't know laws where you live, but maybe if it's bad you'd be able to get full custody and leave the country?