How do you deal with the controlling HCBM??
She has to control everythingggggg and if we set boundaries it causes so much chaos. And it’s little things too that she manipulates and gaslights us on… my 8 year old SD doesn’t spend nights with her and her mom came to pick her up on her Saturday and wanted us to send her with an extra pair of clothes and my husband said no if she needs extra clothes on her time mom should be providing it and she made a HUGE issue. Or today she texts saying “I will be calling XX today” instead of “hey do you guys have plans or what time can I call XX today?” Idk sometimes I feel crazy but it’s like when do you draw a boundary of respect and when do you just give in and allow her to try to run the show?
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I have the same issue. Sometimes I feel like my life revolves around her and her schedule. 🙄
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I get what you mean here. I'd just send the clothes. With the text, I wouldn't respond or maybe just a thumbs up to acknowledge you received it. If she calls while you're out and gets mad say "Sorry, maybe we can coordinate better next time." With hcbm don't worry about respect just minimize interactions and disruption to your life.