MIL wants to go to birthday party

I'm back again, already. I got some useful advice last time. I'm hoping for more. So my daughter got her first birthday party invite (she's 2). It is from one of my clients who we've made a professional friendship. She expects my daughter, husband and I. It is her first birthday party invite, now my MIL is livid she is not being invited. If this was someone who I've known forever or a family member of mine I'd bring her just to shut her up. But it's a work client. I can't just invite her. They are keeping it a small party for a reason. Ever since our zoo trip, even though she complied she's been miserable with all of us except my daughter. Even went as far as to out of nowhere pull the " I know sweetie. I'm sorry Mom mom won't be able to make it to the birthday party. She wasn't invited". Like we have a say on who's invited. I've tried gentle parenting her into realizing it's a kids birthday for my work client you've never met but she's not having it. My daughter handles being told no better than this 50 something year old woman. Someone may recommend me asking the client if she can come. I don't want her to. She will act obnoxious, attention seeking, she may even go as far as being rude to my client just to spite me. For her, it wouldn't be far fetched. So asking my client would be out of the question. In this situation what would you do? I don't care about hurting feelings anymore. We're about to put ourselves into debt just to get away from this nut job.

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Wait she calls her self mom mom? That would piss me off just that😡 why does she need to go? She's not her parent and like you said it's not like it's a family friends party

What I would is just tell her no end of story if she has a problem with it then that's on her! She needs to grow up

What an entitled woman, what a strange request she go to strangers birthday party. Just tell her no, and say that quite frankly it’s an entitled thing to expect. She doesn’t know the birthday girl or the parent, and explain that absolutely no other grandparents are attending because it’s a weird thing to do. Also calling herself mom mom? That’s just next level crazy.

@Rachel my mil is called mom-mom too I hate it but its my husband's side of the family tradition But anyway I agree with Rachel just be blunt plain and simple seems you've been nice about her feelings long enough

Hey there mama, so very sorry you’re stuck dealing with this lady. So you may not like my point of view but I’ve been in a similar situation for almost 6 years. She would call herself mom, baby and manipulate my husband, etc. So the problem is that you don’t like her response to your no. It sounds like you already said she cannot go that’s why she’s bringing it up to your daughter. You need to talk to her one on one when she pulls this shit in the nicest way possible. Let her know your boundaries and what is / is not acceptable especially when it comes to your child. This whole booo hooo is crap and not tolerated. She is very childish and that’s annoying. But that’s a choice she’s making. And you made a choice to allow it. You have got to stand firm in your no. I promise it gets better. You can message me if you’d like 😊 It’s taken me 4 years just to finally set some boundaries and another year to stick to them. And now I’m trying to create a better relationship with her.

Sounds lile regardless how you put it she's going tobe upset 🤷🏼‍♀️ I would just say this is a small party and the invite is only extended to My daughter, Husband, and I. We cannot invite you along as this would be extremely rude and disrepectful of us. Just be blunt and truthful 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sorry but this made me laugh. How the hell a grown up expect to be invited in that kind of event. Wtf with this lady

The fact she calls herself ‘mom mom’ tell em everything I need to know 🤮 You don’t need to do anything. She’s being ridiculous and I wouldn’t even engage with her about it. We don’t always have to explain things to people.

I am not understanding why she think she would be invited to the party and why she is upset someone she doesn’t know didn’t invite her to a birthday party? Just say no and that’s that. If your daughter asks why she isn’t there, explain that she wasn’t invited because she doesn’t know the birthday family. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this… she’s crazy.

Mom-Mom?! Hell fucking no! Hold my rings!

I'd be telling her she can get over it and herself. Selfish. And to involve your daughter and make you out to be the bad person 😩 I'd be going very low/no contact with her and keep your child away from her if shes going to use her like that

Do NOT bring her. And do NOT ask your client. That will put a strain on the professional relationship

@Sam my aunt has her grandkids call her "Great Mom"... as her niece, that makes me feel some type of way for my cousins

Thanks everyone. To answer some questions; No we are standing strong and not letting her come. This is my "work friend's" kids 2nd birthday party. There's no reason for her to come uninvited. Someone had said talk to her and establish boundaries. I've known this woman since I was in high school (when I met my husband). I have tried to talk to her and establish boundaries since. We are now in our 30s. That ship has sailed. My husband is done with her as well. That's her son. I'm not getting into his reasons. It is at the point where once we leave we are going no contact. There is no talking to her. She does not tolerate anyone's boundaries but her own. Party is tomorrow. She's not talking to us. So hopefully it stays that way.

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