You have instilled such a strong attachment with your kids (this is healthy) that they know you will always come back! Rather than thinking "they didnt miss me" (which, I am sure they did) think "they knew I would be back" and thats why they didnt have such a strong reaction. Theyre so young now that their thoughts are "will she be back?" Not "I know she'll be back, but I'm sad she's gone" they will mature to the latter soon and you'll be able to leave knowing they're confident youll come home, but they'll be able to voice they missed you too.
@Brianna they're usually very clingy to me and want to sit with me all day long so that's why I was so confused and hurt when I came back and they didn't reach for me at all 😅
@Stephanie I guess I'm just used to them always wanting to be attached to me when I'm home that it was shocking when I came back and they didn't want me 😅 it makes me happy that they have bonds with other people but it made me sad they didn't come running to me like they always do with their dad 😅
I totally get it. If I leave my girl with her dad at home and come back after like 2 hours, she is excited to see me. If we both leave and come back, she is more excited to see my husband 😅
@Stephanie that happens to me too! That makes me feel better 😅 I think this is the first real time my husband and I have both been gone for more than an hour lol
It's definitely because they are so used to you being there and always coming back to them when they have a need. I know it can feel like youre being rejected, but in reality this is so great! 🥰
I had my boy at grandmas house for two nights and he didn’t cry for us at all he only cried a little after I picked him up he didn’t wanna leave!
Honey, that’s an amazing thing! That means you’ve created such a strong attachment with them! That means they know you’ll always come to them when they need. It’s amazing! Be proud of yourself. Such a great mama moment in my eyes. My daughter doesn’t react when I get home and she’s 5 months old. It’s a secure attachment. You’re doing great mamas. Don’t feel like you’re failing. You’re setting them up for an amazing life. Way to go!
I haven't necessarily experienced it, but I wonder if because they see you more, and are around you more often, that might be why they gravitated towards others.