My kids didn't miss me today..

My husband and I went on a movie date to see the new Deadpool & wolverine movie today and we were gone for 4 hours. (The movie was amazing!!) But when we got back, I ran inside because I missed them as I'm never away much, and my 3yo maybe said hi to me but didn't run to me or anything. My 16mo saw me first but just reached for my husband who was behind me.. it fucking stung.. I would've thought they would've missed me since I'm their mom who stays at home with them every day but nope.. my oldest just stayed reading his book with my brothers girlfriend and my youngest wanted his dad.. it makes me feel like they wouldn't care if I was around at all.. it makes me feel like I'm failing as a mom if they didn't miss me one bit.. Has anyone else experienced this as a sahm..?
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I haven't necessarily experienced it, but I wonder if because they see you more, and are around you more often, that might be why they gravitated towards others.

You have instilled such a strong attachment with your kids (this is healthy) that they know you will always come back! Rather than thinking "they didnt miss me" (which, I am sure they did) think "they knew I would be back" and thats why they didnt have such a strong reaction. Theyre so young now that their thoughts are "will she be back?" Not "I know she'll be back, but I'm sad she's gone" they will mature to the latter soon and you'll be able to leave knowing they're confident youll come home, but they'll be able to voice they missed you too.

@Brianna they're usually very clingy to me and want to sit with me all day long so that's why I was so confused and hurt when I came back and they didn't reach for me at all 😅

@Stephanie I guess I'm just used to them always wanting to be attached to me when I'm home that it was shocking when I came back and they didn't want me 😅 it makes me happy that they have bonds with other people but it made me sad they didn't come running to me like they always do with their dad 😅

I totally get it. If I leave my girl with her dad at home and come back after like 2 hours, she is excited to see me. If we both leave and come back, she is more excited to see my husband 😅

@Stephanie that happens to me too! That makes me feel better 😅 I think this is the first real time my husband and I have both been gone for more than an hour lol

It's definitely because they are so used to you being there and always coming back to them when they have a need. I know it can feel like youre being rejected, but in reality this is so great! 🥰

I had my boy at grandmas house for two nights and he didn’t cry for us at all he only cried a little after I picked him up he didn’t wanna leave!

Honey, that’s an amazing thing! That means you’ve created such a strong attachment with them! That means they know you’ll always come to them when they need. It’s amazing! Be proud of yourself. Such a great mama moment in my eyes. My daughter doesn’t react when I get home and she’s 5 months old. It’s a secure attachment. You’re doing great mamas. Don’t feel like you’re failing. You’re setting them up for an amazing life. Way to go!

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