Feeling lost of joy

Hi everyone i gave birth to my baby when I was 19 and i’m currently 21 now. I’m not sure if it’s post partum but I feel like lately I have been having a strong feeling of FOMO. I just turned 21 last week and now I can legally drink but I cant help the feeling of jealousy from others that I cant go out anymore without having to worry about my child at home.
I feel like I strongly miss hanging out late with friends at night and partying and just being able to do everything without having to worry about my child. It feels so selfish and I feel so full of guilt. I had this strong feeling before a year ago as well but I thought I had gotten over it knowing that I have a future with my new family. But I feel like as soon as I had my birthday I just dont really feel any joy anymore and it tears me apart that this is the age where I should have fun but I dont feel any joy in life anymore.
I lost my friends during my pregnancy but I am just now reconnecting with them and it feels really guilty of me to say but I get the feeling of regretting getting pregnant in the first place because my life feels like it’s over now. I live with my MIL and I hate being here but i’m so weak and vulnerable I cant get myself out of this cycle that i’m in.
I just feel like I had to come on here and vent a little bit, thank you for reading until the end

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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