When is best to tell close friends and family?

Hi everyone, I just found out I am pregnant and and 6w+3. I told my mum and she has made me really anxious about miscarriage. Before this, I was excited to tell my close friends and other family members but now i am so apprehensive about this! Should I wait until my 12 week scan?
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Hey! I've had 1 miscarriage before and my mum was the exact same. At 3, 6 and 8 weeks when we talked about it each time she'd say "oh I'm excited on the inside but I won't hold my breath just yet, you know" like fk thanks mum. But I listened to my gut and I told my closest friends and family at 6ish weeks. I made sure that it was people, that if I did have a miscarriage, they would be ready to support me, or to not ask unnecessary questions etc if anything was to happen. Everyone says wait until at least 12 but fk it, it's your pregnancy I've told a few more people along the way. Im having my 12 week scan tomorrow so I'll be pretty happy telling anyone who's left after that

For me personally, I only told the people I would also be comfortable telling about a miscarriage- those I would want and need support from if that happened. That was some family and a close friend, around 4 weeks when I found out. We told everyone else around 12 weeks! There is no right or wrong answer though. Every life deserves to be celebrated, so if you feel comfortable telling people, go for it!

Currently going through a miscarriage (started at 6 weeks and 4 days). I was keeping it a secret from most people for a little bit and I wish more people knew. Those who do know have helped me through it the last few days tremendously. It felt so lonely before anyone found out and since they have, they’ve been thinking of me, praying for us, sending me songs, someone brought me flowers etc. All of those little gestures, though they don’t make it go away, help make it a little better and make it feel less lonely. I can’t imagine carrying this silently. If you want to tell people you should. Miscarrying is worst case and probably won’t happen but if it did I don’t see harm in people knowing what you’re going through. ❤️

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