Overwhelmingly lonely

I have help and my partner is a great Dad but naturally as my baby’s mother it’s always me leading the way with everything. Only me who she will settle for, only me who can tell exactly what’s wrong with her, only me who gets up in the night etc etc. and I’m just finding it so overwhelmingly lonely. I’m so tired and feel so taken for granted. I love her so much but feel completely lost and invisible as anything other than a mother. It feels like I’ve completely lost every sense of who I am and that I’m always the least important thing. Am I being selfish?
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I could have written this! I feel exactly the same. Feel free to DM me wouod be good to connect. It's not selfish at all. I think motherhood esp first time can be so overwhelming and all consuming its hard! Easier said than done I know and I'm struggling to do this myself but starting to carve out some time for yourself and self care will help. How old is your LO?

Not at all, it is hard and scientifically babies are designed to borrow from their care givers to develop and it can make it hard as western society really isn't set up to support that any more. How old is baby? Maybe we can help with some practical and gentle suggestions? Xx

I feel so much of this. You are definitely not selfish or alone in these feelings ❤️

Unfortunately this is 'normal' it shouldn't be, but it is. Lots of us don't have a village anymore like was intended❤️

You are not alone in this.

I feel the same love, I have help from my mom and my husband is very helpful. I feel so lonely during those night feeds and diaper change. I also want to be with my baby all the time at the same time feeling like I have no time for myself not even bathroom break. I’m in no place to give advice but I find that if I can manage to put my baby in a feeding and napping schedule( which changes every week as he grows) I have more time for myself, I would run errands or go to gym and feel much better after. Sending you love!

Thank you all so much, it really does help to know I’m not the only one feeling this way. My little girl is 4 and a half months old and I love her so much, she’s the light of my life! She’s going through a bit of a sleep regression at the moment which isn’t helping, but hoping it will soon pass. I initially had heaps of energy and I don’t know where it was coming from but now it’s all of a sudden like my battery has completely drained, I don’t know how people make it look so easy x

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