I would really appreciate some hope

I would really appreciate if somebody with experience could give me some hope. My LG prefers her Dad over me and it is really upsetting. Today at her first day of nursery we both went to collect her and she gave me a completely blank look but when her Dad entered she gave him a smile and wanted him to hold her. I went to hold her instead and she started screaming. It was a bit embarrassing but mainly it was painful. At home it's the same situation, she wants to spend time with him and cries if I hold her. I am so sad about this. I would do anything to make her happy but all I want is for her to have some attachment towards me. Does anyone know if this will ever change?
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I have a 3 year old girl and it’s exactly the same, it’s heartbreaking when they learn to talk. Only yesterday I had I don’t love you mummy I only love daddy. Try and see it that they are just so close to you they feel you won’t ever leave. As mums we are so close to them where as dads often disappear to work etc so i think it’s down to that. Plus I’m more stern with her at times and dad is the fun one!

This happened with my niece and my sister (her mum) she would always go to dad instead, even though she spent most of her time with mum and mum did everything for her. But that’s exactly why she went to dad - she didn’t have such a secure attachment with her dad, so she would test it whenever she could by going to him first, sitting next to him at dinner, asking him to play with her etc. She knew mummy was always there for her, so never felt she had to ‘test’ her mums love for her. May not be the same in your situation, but it could be something like this?

@Siân Thanks :) do you know if the relationship improved? X

@Amy sorry to hear, that must be heart breaking! I really hope your relationship with your daughter blossoms as she gets older. That's what I'm hoping for. I mean who is she going to go to when she wants to wear a pretty dress and try on makeup.

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