Second baby experience

I'll join you on the happy post...do you know what's even better than you loving them? When you watch your little boy fall in love with his little brother 💙 that is epic! Watching my son fall in love with his little sister was just unbelievable and then watching her fall in love with him as she grew. My two are now 5 and 2 and I'm pregnant with number 3. My daughter will be nearly 3 when her little sister comes and I can't wait to watch her fall in love and equally watch my son fall in love all over again. I'm so excited for you 💗

I love this post so much. I’m so happy for you. I also wish I had the same feelings as you. I feel the opposite. I had all the feelings, bonding, excitement, curiosity with my first. I also had a traumatic birth, but it seemed to help with bonding for me. This time around, I just have a feeling of dread of what’s coming, the sleepless nights, establishing feeding, all this a toddler in tow. I don’t know if I have any more capacity for love as my son currently takes everything that I have. This baby was so planned and wanted, but I just feel down about it and I’ve only got 6 weeks until my elective. I haven’t even sorted through the baby stuff yet. 😔

My husband is like this! Keeps saying how with our son who was born last year he wasn’t as excited or feel a connection when I was pregs as he was just kinda waiting for him to be born but now we have our son who just turned one and he loves him so much and he knows that we have another one in my belly he’s SO excited for her to be born! Keeps saying how he can’t wait to meet her and for her to be here and how we get to relive the last year all over again soon and how exciting it is! I was excited for both haha but think that’s because I get to feel them in me!

I’m totally with you on this. When my first boy was born 3.5 years ago, I never felt much of a connection.. I was excited of course but I was shit scared and nervous. I wasn’t emotional when he was born which I felt a bit concerned and guilty for, I see mums crying their eyes out when their babies are here and was baffled as to why I wasn’t feeling the same. I feel similar with this pregnancy.. the only thing I feel slightly emotional about is how amazing my 3 year old is going to be with his baby brother and the connection they’re going to have and the fact that he’s going to have a little sidekick for the rest of his life and someone to grow up with and look after which brings me so much happiness. Xx

@Emma awwww yesss!! That moment is going to be absolutely beautiful! Can’t wait 🥹❤️

@Hopeful awwww I’m with you on having nothing sorted. Sometimes I even forget what week I’m on 😭🫣 what I have seen though is people saying that your heart grows with the second. Also that you’ll feel so much more confident as a mother this time round which should help. Wishing you the best ❤️❤️

@Leonie Awwww that’s so lovely that he is super excited this time. Haha I’m jealous that you felt it both times 🥹

@Els Yesss!! Mine is two under two so I was immediately filled with dread when I found out I was pregnant! But what you’ve described, having two boys.. best friends for life! Absolutely heart warming 🥹❤️