Not really sure how to go about the situation I am in..

I got pregnant at the same time as my friend and sister in law we all had due dates with in the couple weeks and reasonable so we were all so exited. My friend had a miscarriage soon after she found out and my sister in law also had a miscarriage around 9 weeks. I don’t want to be insensitive to there situation but I also am not sure how to avoid talking about me being pregnant especially around my family. I’m not sure if me reaching out to my sister in law will make things worse for her or if me not reaching out is making things worse. I see my friend daily and try to stay away from talking about anything pregnant/baby related but I don’t see my sister in law very often but I am still pretty close to her. So I’m not sure how to go about it. I am so sad for there losses but I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy and I am having a hard time doing that with being so close to people that just lost their babies..
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Having experienced a miscarriage before my now pregnancy. The advice I would give is just let them know you are sad for their loss and want to still include them in your journey but understand that it may make them sad so will avoid talking about pregnancy things unless they want to talk about it. Ask them what they want and they will tell you. It's much easier then trying to guess it leaving them out and they feel even worse for not being given the option to be involved or not. I hope this helps.

I would honestly just have this exact conversation with them, then they can decide, and say that they are completely comfortable about it, or they might say it makes them a bit uncomfortable. Either way I’m sure they are both happy for you, they might just need a little bit of time ❤️

Having just very recently gone through a miscarriage, what I appreciated was a simple text or phone call just acknowledging what happened. But I prefer not to talk about it beyond that, if that makes sense? I know everyone is different, but I don’t want people to like feel bad for me or walk on eggshells around me. I have pregnant friends and I am very happy for them! My best advice is just to continue your journey, but just be extra mindful around them ❤️

When I lost my baby I had people just reach out to let me know they were there. One of my friends was going through IVF and asked if it was okay to talk about it and I really appreciated being asked! Just let them know you're there for them and you'd like to know if they'd like to be kept updated on things or if they need a bit of time for now. I'm so sorry for their losses, you're a lovely person for caring about their feelings so much 💕

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