@Kaci thank you everyone uses me for money most has stopped but accept from one certain person I’m just sick of it I got her out of debt and everything when I never had a child because I felt bad as she uses stuff like oh she ran out of this or that she’s apparently struggling for money to get her child stuff for birthday but she had all year Ive said no only because I’m fedup now I’ve got my own baby I’ve been sorting stuff for his birthday/christmas for months now so I’ll have it and not worry about it it was the same when I was pregnant buying in advance. I don’t get why people don’t start buying even if it’s the month before they know it’s coming up. I just got really fedup im worried incase she don’t actually have anything for the child’s birthday but then again she’s used me from day dot for money sob storys making me feel bad so got her out of debt and everything
It is sad when you have to worry about stuff like this if i was in your situation id buy the child a couple of things that arent too expensive but most definitely dont give the mum money because you dont know what shes spending it on i know someone who was consistently asking people for money saying their baby needed stuff but they was spending the money on weed as people were literally giving her money and telling her not to worry about paying it back as she guilt tripped them into thinking its for the baby at the end of the day the most important thing to you is your baby not hers as sad as it is its not your responsibility to make sure her baby has a birthday present but yeah like i said if its bothering you really bad just get a few small bits for them but yeah i wouldnt feel bad about it because its not your fault that shes clearly not putting her child first because theres always ways to try make money, people give stuff away a lot of the time and she could look in charity shops🫶🏻
I seen something in a group on here the other day it was somebody asking if anyone has anything they can give them to help as theyre due in a month and have nothing and it really annoyed me because everyone struggles at the end of the day but if your not gunna put your child first then you shouldnt have children ive been struggling like crazy making sure ive got everything i need for when my babies here and yeah its hard but im not relying on other people and im making sure i have everything i will need as its my responsibility i chose to get pregnant but i understand where your coming from as i was like that before i fell pregnant but theres a lot of responsibility that comes with having a baby theyre not just something cute to look at like some people seem to think x