How do you connect with your baby when they look more like their father than their mother?

I’m nervous about connecting with my daughter. I’m 33 weeks right now so I still have time. I’m white and her dad is black. I’m worried I won’t be able to relate to her and she’ll prefer her dad to me because “he’ll understand it better”. I don’t know how to teach her about racism and how to protect herself the best she can. Obviously this is a little premature but it’s been bothering me lately.
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I’m black and my fiancé is white. So I somewhat get how you feel. I think first worry about having an emotional connection. Babies and kids don’t see preference in colour and she will love you simply because you’re her mother x as they get older you will of course have to teach them about racial /social issues and even they you can’t relate it’s important you are at least sympathetic and understanding. Most of all teach her to love herself in her own skin. My little one is 7 months but I’m constantly saying how much I love her curly hair so she learns to love it and not want to straighten it and be like other kids . Especially because we will probably live in predominantly white area when she’s in school.☺️ don’t stress too much , I can tell by your concern you’ll do a great job. Feel free to mesage me x

@Angela Thank you, that makes me feel better. I appreciate your input, especially about loving her curls for example.

I’m white, my son’s father is black. My son came out white but he has curly hair which always gives it away to ppm that he’s mixed. I worry that if he acts on his black culture that he’ll get made fun of bc he looks white. 😩

@Kendra Ya I guess I won’t know until she’s born I guess. Maybe she’ll look just like me, who knows. How old is your son?

My son has my husband's and my features mixed together and his skin is a beautiful tan! We made chocolate milk. Cause I'm super pale and he's the opposite. Some people will comment how his hair isn't course or nappy 🙄 or that he isn't that dark. Those comments tend to fade away over time. But at the end of the day you aren't racist and you were taught certain things just keep that up with your baby. They learn so much from us. 💙💙

Thank you @Dianna 🥹🙏 I appreciate it

My son is 16 months old

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