Help with sleep

I need some help. My LO is 22 months old and we are currently trying for our next baby but I’ve got a few concerns about his sleep which will be hard when I’m pregnant and when the baby is born. 1. We have to stand up and rock him to sleep and my partner and I are struggling because he is quite heavy now and it kills our back and arms. 2. For some reason, for the last 2 months, he won’t go to sleep until late (between 10-11pm) and we don’t know why. We can’t stop his nap because he will just end up falling asleep late in the day as he still needs his one nap. He naps between 1-3 hours at around 10.30-11am but even if he was to just nap for 1 hour, he still will go to sleep late. 3. He wakes up during the night. He can wake up between 1-4 times. There will be a rare occasion where he will sleep through the night. 5. Sometimes, when he wakes up during the night, he fully wakes up so it takes us between 2-3 hours to get him back to sleep and it’s hard when we both have work the next day (I have to wake up at 5.15-5.30am for work). 6. Because his sleep is all over the place, he never wakes up at the same time every morning so we wouldn’t be able to get him to nap earlier in the day. We have tried the Ferber method but that didn’t work because it got to the point where I felt like we were doing the cry out method and I do not want to put my son through that. It’s upsetting. Is there anything we can do to try and get him to fall asleep by himself and stay asleep?

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What time does he usually wake up for the day? And do you know his wake windows? Is there a way to lay next to him and pat him to sleep instead of rocking?

My daughter does the same sometimes she wakes up screaming and crying for an hour. I don’t have set bed times but she does go to bed before 12 am and wakes up before 9am napes for 2 hours but everyday is different. We use a sound machine the round one it’s gray on Amazon I have it on the static sound it’s like an airplane sound then we use a fan that has white noise and vibrations. We never sleep without the machine ever.

I have read that making sure they are up at the same time everyday is important for a good routine. I struggle with this myself bc my girl is really difficult to put to sleep too. I would try to move wake up time earlier for a few days and see if that makes a difference

@Itayetzin he wakes up at different times. On Saturday he woke up at 8.30, yesterday he woke up at 5.45 and this morning at 7. He goes for his nap for about 10-11am. He has always gone for his nap at that time and when we used to get him to sleep at 7.30-8 he would go to straight to sleep but now he won’t and is wide awake. He wants us to stand up when getting him to sleep. If we done that, he wouldn’t stop moving and he would cry

@Kris we use a waterfall sound and have the fan on but when it gets cold we won’t be able to use the fan which has helped him sleep better through the night

@Vanessa I wish I could do that but on Saturday he was up at 8.30, yesterday at 5.45 and this morning at 7

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