@Khyia aw girl! I’m so sorry you had those traumatic experiences! But thank God you and your babies are ok in the end that’s all that matters. I truly believe Gods plans for our lives are always better than what we want for ourselves… but we’re human we’re still allowed to feel sad about the what could have been. I guess we just have to try not to dwell in those sad feelings and be more thank for what we have blessed with. But trust me I completely understand! BTW you said during your first C-section is was you and your leadership as your husband was deployed, who is leadership!? Just out of interest.
Yes! I feel like this, I really wish for another baby, but we are done. It's like a form of grief, slowly coming to accept not being pregnant again, no more baby snuggles. Many, many tears. You are not alone.
@Elisa sending you hugs 🫂 🥹
I only have 2 my youngest is about to turn 1 this month and he will be our last it really does make me sad that I won’t have anymore babies but I’m too old and have fertility issues as well, and also financially I don’t think we could afford another one as we’d have to have a bigger car and then all the other costs.
@Caroline absolutely, I understand it all adds up doesn’t it!? And health wise too soo vital to put ur wellbeing first. But we can’t help to still feel sad for not having that special experience again. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this feeling. It’s so strange to know you definitely don’t want something but still feel so sad about it never happening. 🫂💕
Me and my friend was actually taking about this a few weeks ago that it’s like a kind of grief that you’ve lost something it’s so hard to explain it to my husband tho. Babies cost alot as well, we didn’t keep anything from our first child as we have a big age gap do we have had to struggle from scratch and it’s not been cheap.
God I hope to God when my baby arrives I am this passionate about it. I am pregnant with my first and it's interesting but I feel absolutely nothing towards him. I've named him and I try to talk about him to make it real. I feel I am so tired (33w) I'm just going through the motions and terrified if I think too deeply I'll get 'omg I'm having a baby' anxiety. Can you possibly adopt another new born? Or is it really not the same? Is it the hormone high?
@Caroline how much? I'm having my first in oct
@Stephanie how much what? I don’t know what you mean
Yea me currently. My husband and I decided we are done with two. I was okay with until I didn’t get the end to my pregnancy that I wanted. My first was super traumatic I was in the hospital for 5 days they couldn’t keep me and baby stable so he was born at 28 weeks. My husband was deployed so it was me and my leadership in the c section. My second pregnancy was good until my water broke and then they said her heart rate was too high so two c sections. Never got to labor never felt contractions no vaginal birth. And we are done so I won’t now. 🤷🏾♀️