Anyone else in this situation?

I am very happy to spend every day taking care of my baby. I love the quality time and being able to meet his every need. I am grateful to be a SAHM, but sometimes, especially after 10m, I miss working? I miss being around people every day and interacting with guests at work. I miss the creative outlet my work provided. We cannot afford for me to work, where we live daycare for my 35 hr weeks would cost about $100 less then what I would make working. So working for an extra $100 a month and spending that time away from my baby just does not make sense. It feels lonely often, and seems to be getting worse every week. It’s hard for me to connect with new moms because even though I try, I’m very awkward sometimes. Kind of like I’ve forgotten how to interact with adults after spending so much one on one time with a baby. Anyway, just curious if anyone can relate or has any advice? Thanks 🫶
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Look for some baby groups in your area ! Great way to make mom friends or and have an outing that is baby friendly ! I’m sure there like a Facebook group for mommy and baby coffee dates

Fb group and go to your local park to meet other moms. As far as a creative outlet for work. Hands on creative or digital? Because you could start your own Etsy store or digital art and sell it.

I came totally relate on this! I've been here in UK since 2021 I never had someone beside my family to talk too. It's a struggle to be honest being a stay at home mum and didn't had a chance to go outside and meet with other mums. Where are you from? Message me ☺️

Not the only one! I feel that too.

I used to struggle too but wasn’t yet ready back then to go out meet new mums (i had difficult recovery post birth and not much help to suddenly get used to SAHM and FTM baby life after smashing a business career, except for husband at home after work or during wfh days) and then one day i broke the ice by going to my first baby group and omg it was AMAZING! Made me feel confident right away and my baby was having so much fun , i feel like baby group also boosted his crawling skills too. I didn’t make any friends yet tbh but I didn’t even feel the need to get in-depth with anyone. Just being around ppl exchanging some random easy thoughts and having a coffee whilst my baby had fun and interacting with other babies was enough to feel so normal again! My baby definitely benefited from the group too. It changed everything! I love visiting baby groups now and really look forward to all of them in my local area each week!

@Masha where do you find baby groups?

I felt the same way especially with living in the country with little friends and family an hour away but I put my daughter in gymnastics to help get us out and interacting with kids her age and it helps!

Same here. Miss working days, being creative, independent, praised for my good work, interacting with adults, etc,.. and I also don’t have any friends or family around. So I get what you’re going through. I try to remind myself daily that priorities shift in life, that I love being a mom and wouldn’t trade it for the world, but we’re humans and we’re allowed to have insecurities.

@Anna i live in Bath, Uk and there are plenty of opportunities here where i live. I mostly just go to ones in churches for now as they are close (can’t lie I love the set up too as those are all gothic cathedrals around us which are breathtaking inside and with cafes so i always have a cake and coffee in there too) and it was easy to find some info on google maps if we talk about churches and i also did just my online search on what’s on in Bath for babies and via instagram of local baby group accounts and mum accounts. Also my health visitor sent me a bunch of baby group info but it was early on when i was overwhelmed so i wasn’t super interested - so perhaps you could ask your local medical workers too - they can suggest places and what to do.

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