I feel anxious

I feel like I’m really worried about losing myself and my freedom during pregnancy/motherhood. It’s really upsetting me. And I’m scared it will trap me in one area where I feel like I can’t travel etc.
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Me and my partner felt the same for a while, but we're determined to do everything we used to do but with a baby. We dream of travelling around Asia and still do just with a little one now. It might be hard, but I truly believe motherhood puts you on the path you were always meant to be on 💓

If you have a good support system it can work

I was so worried as well, me and my partner hadn’t been together long and I was worried how we would lose each other as well… but quite the opposite happened, we’re stronger together and now we just do all the same things… but with a baby 😂. Our boy has been on 3 holidays at 7 months old, he loves going on adventures as well. As long as you have time for you as that’s the most important thing, you’ll be fine and make an amazing mum!

Girl I feel the same and I’m nearly 6 months ! x honestly it scares the shit out of me I’m turning 24 this month and feel like I haven’t lived my life to the extent I wanted to or that I’ll loose things I love doing. But the truth is so long as I balance out my time and consistently make myself a priority - going to the gym seeing my girls going on dinner dates with them and date nights with my partner and make sure we have enough to travel I wouldn’t loose myself I would of just added an extra little being to the mechanics. Every child is a chance to re build yourself even if you don’t want or feel you need to. We add things and take away things that make us whole and take away things that don’t serve us anymore it’s just a new chapter babe and fuck it’s scary but anxiety and excitement are the same emotions we just gotta learn to channel it x I’m always here if you wanna chat. You are not alone in this

I’m only 6 weeks ** x

@Jessica this is so lovely, we have recently come home from travelling Asia and Australia. We have been together for over a year which i feel like is too soon but I don’t know. I don’t like feeling trapped in this area as there is not much opportunity if that makes any sense. Really worries me, but I think you are right.

@Krysta yes I do, there’s just something in me that all of a sudden feels like I won’t be able to just fly off and travel somewhere or reach my goals as this could impact things to much! But I thought writing this message would be good because a lot of people hide this feeling 💕

@Sadie this is another worry, I don’t want this to ruin our relationship which is relatively new. Was worried we haven’t had enough time together if that makes sense? That sounds amazing I’m glad you’re still doing things you want to do💕🫶🏽

@Morgan Jane we had been together 4 months when we found out, and honestly it’s not changed us, we just have another member! We do everything together, the grandparents have him for our date nights and we each get alone time, but we have the most amazing family adventures. Things that you wouldn’t do as a couple. It’s the most rewarding thing ❤️

I’ve felt the same, but during our last three trips planes were FULL of babies, and so were the hiking trails - parents carrying tots in the backpacks, even little twins! I’ve taken it as a “sign” from the universe and relaxed. If there is will there is a way!

I remember literally mourning my previous life when I was pregnant with my first. The hormones didn't help, I spent a lot of early pregnancy crying (even though our daughter was very much planned and wanted). And yes, it's been different since I've become a mum. I don't have the same freedom as I used to to come and go as I please but we make it work. We've actually been travelling more than we did before having a kid! Our 2yo has been on a plane 15+ times. We've been to Morocco, Italy, France, Poland. We've literally climbed mountains with her. It's different but you can still do cool things :) x

As a toddler mum, I did things I would do before pregnancy (even though I rarely left the house 😭) I still had me time and nights out every do often when my girl was staying out! It works out well especially when you have a good support network. Idk how it's gonna go when my second one comes along tho 😅 xx

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