I say first pregnancy that’s made it this far.
I’ve had 3 pregnancies. 1 C-section, 1 abortion and currently pregnant now. I always tell them 3 bc that’s what they told me to include in the beginning, never bothered me. And if it bothers you, say it.
I’m in the exact same boat as you. Stating it’s my first, erases the losses and pulls on my heart strings after. With medical practitioners, you could practice saying ‘first full-term’ which then gives you space to elaborate on how many pregnancies you’ve specifically experienced, if necessary. Sending you big blessings on this journey 🤍
I’ve had 4! First pregnancy with my daughter, 2 chemicals and this one (36w+3d)
I say third pregnancy first baby xx