Behavior issues

What is it exactly he is doing?

@Samantha he is hitting not listening throwing fits by throwing his shoes at teachers pulling on other kid's clothes and choking them and hurting them. Hitting me and his dad and throwing toys at people. He has a 7 month old sister and I don't want him hurting her at all.

I would recommend, once these fits start, redirect his attention. Pick him up and carry him away from the situation. Tell him softly you won't allow him to hurt you or himself. Maybe either pick a safe space in the house to go to, or try changing his mood by playing like tickling him etc. My son has tantrums and screams, and so far this tactic is helping to make them fewer and they last only seconds then stop. It's slowly improving.

Mine had explosive tantrums which became very self destructive and most of it stemmed from a feeling of lack of control for her. If you can find something that triggers it and can mitigate them that helped some but what got my daughter to stop with them was explaining to her that what she was doing hurts if she did something that hurt herself she would realize it and stop but not if it was hurting someone else when not in a tantrum we’d use dolls or stuffed animals and act it out have them pick their favorite one and use that one as the one that gets hurt or is upset by something (my daughter if it wasn’t her favorite thing of the day would often find it funny but when it was the one she really liked that day didn’t like that that one was upset or hurt) we had to set very strict boundaries for what was ok and not after ab 6 months of sticking with it and following through the destructiveness stopped mostly. If she hit or threw and she had been warned not to that day it was timeout

(After time out it was always explained why and reiterated that it’s not acceptable to hurt people because we want to be kind and we don’t want to hurt people. She’s always had very strong emotions and it can be explosive in some cases with any emotion anger or frustrations just seem to be the most destructive) for a bit to minimize it we tried having a “calm down corner” where it was just blankets, pillows, ect. soft things that if she felt like she needed to throw herself or hit something she could but with her it would never stay to that area.