@Taylor why does IVF scare you?
The meds, the money, the stress of waiting to hear how many eggs you get, how many fertilize, etc. Plus I think failed transfers will automatically feel like a loss/miscarriage to me. In 2 years of TTC I've never once got a positive test. Plus I know that we would probably never do a second round. It would be a one-shot thing for us, which is just scary. I also am personally not OK with ending up with extra embryos. I don't want to make more than I would use. So there's some added stress there of trying to end up with enough but not too many.
Hey I can totally relate to this as I’ve been through two failed iVf cycles! My clinic only allowed me to transfer one embryo with that being said the chances were very low at the start. Especially with me I only had two good quality embryo’s! The more the better as you have an option keeping them in storage for later use.
At 39 ivf success rate is below 15% so don’t worry about twins - they would possibly only transfer one anyway! I’ve done 3 egg collections and 7 embryo transfers myself to get our baby boy at 40-41 and can honestly say it’s totally worth it!!
If you only transfer 1 embryo at a time, your chances of multiples isn't very high. Especially more than 2. To be clear, IVF scares me, too. But the chance of multiples isn't why.