Anyone else sad cause they expected more from their partner?

i went thru the same thing and i just suffered in silence. i so so so wish i had done something about it then bc it’s a million times worse now. i feel like a single parent and the only one doing anything around the house. i really suggest sitting him down and having a big chat where you both can talk through it. bc it rly does get harder once baby is here. sending u love 🫶

I feel you. My husband wasn’t the best either and we’ve been struggling post partum because I feel he’s not active or supportive enough. Men dont understand what we go through being pregnant, especially if it’s for the first time

Absolutely 💯

My husband used to talk crap about guys he knew like that but then turned out to be one when o got pregnant. I’m a SAHM now but still kinda sucks. Like a foot rub once in a blue moon would make me happy… I had to ask for recognition before I started getting it.

Talk to him and tell him now you feel. Unfortunately it will get worse when baby is here

🙋🏽‍♀️🙋🏽‍♀️ me too. I hear ya. Are you maybe masking how you’re feeling as you’re just getting on with it?? I luckily had quite a good pregnancy so was able to carry on pretty much as normal therefore my partner also just carried on as normal. Would it have been nice for him to treat me like a Queen? Yesssssss 😂 but it wasn’t my reality. The reality is it’s not all the sweet TikTok’s you see of partners going above and beyond- if it is then you’re hella lucky!! However he’s not ‘got worse’ since baby has arrived. It’s a different dynamic all together there’s another human being here that needs to be cared for 24/7 and although I sometimes need to prompt and remind he is overall pretty good in general. Have a little faith, but some hints/ a conversation depending on how badly you feel could go a long way 🫶🏽🫶🏽 sending love

Thanks everyone - I think it’s partly me having unrealistic expectations because of social media - truth is I’ve had an easy pregnancy so far so we’ve been able to go on as normal, but just from how he used to describe he would treat me it has still felt a bit disappointing that he hasn’t tried a bit more. And partly I didn’t tell him I was feeling this way because our previous pregnancy was a miscarriage and I thought maybe he didn’t let himself believe or act this new one was actually real until we were in a more safe zone, but at 14 weeks now nothing still changed even though all scans have looked good and now it all came out during an argument instead so now I’ve made him feel like a horrible partner so now I feel bad for that

I’m gonna be honest and say have a big talk with him overall. I am going through a breakup with a 2 month old baby for this exact reason. If you continue to ask and it doesn’t get better leave and be done but if yall can work something out that would be amazing and I’m really hoping for the best with you guys!!

I had this last year when my son was born. Pregnancy carried on like normal and was very uneventful but then there were things that really got to me like having to find my own food 24/7 every day and only occasionally will food be cooked for me! I did mention these things in pregnancy but because it’s easily fixed we just got on with everything. Baby comes and I’m doing everything alone! We were both at home so there was no excuse! I mentioned over and over again that I needed more help and all I got was excuses! I said how o felt like a single parent and then by the time my son was about 4-5 months we broke up! Honestly speak to him an let him know how you feel 100% and even say this is going to lead to a break up! If nothing changes then follow through with your words! It will only lead to you parenting the child alone, him doing about 5% of the work and claiming he is doing 50%🙄