Partner way too harsh on son.
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@Jess I guess he is unreasonable and unwilling to listen to others yes. Including me. I'd love to be that clear and direct with him but I doubt he'd listen. He also has a tendency to shortcut straight to anger and so he's really difficult to talk to. Saying all this is making me doubt the whole relationship to be honest... But I'd rather try and say something and improve things before ending them. Maybe I could write something down for him to try and take in?
100% definitely try say something via whatever method you think would give the most chance of him listening. It could be the start of a whole new chapter for you all. Good luck!
There's an Instagram account called Nurtured first that has great ideas on how to deal with small children's behaviour and helps understand them. The person behind is a child therapist and she also has a podcast. Maybe pointing out to him some of the information in there which is backed by professionals will help? He is probably replicating how he was brought up? And maybe he doesn't know any other way of parenting. It doesn't make it right but some people just don't know any other way... Hope you manage to get listened to
I second nurtured first! Great account and definitely lots of posts to make you think about parenting choices. Just sending him some posts and saying “maybe have a read of how your behaviour could influence our child” could help lots!
Why do you feel like you can't challenge him on it?! Is he unreasonable and unwilling to listen to others? I'd be making it very clear that's not how I want to parent and he needs to change his attitude but I guess the power balance is different in relationships (I take the lead with parenting things)