What do I do?

So I asked my husband for a divorce last weekend. The trigger essentially being finding out he was cheating online in an extremely vile way. (Lot of issues but all boils down to he’s a narcissist who views women as sexual objects). He’s since been staying at his parents since and won’t even communicate about anything like selling the house, bills (I’m a sahm with no car-working on it), or even to ask about our 1.5yr old who’s staying with me. I am at a loss. I was hoping to go uncontested since all I really care about is my son and not material things and to avoid thousands upon thousands in court fees. All he says is he’s not ready to talk. Do I just keep giving him space? I feel like everything is up in the air and I can’t do shit about it.

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I think is ok to give some space to him. But in the meantime prepare yourself for possible outcomes. Narcissist people don’t give up easy. Decide on a time frame but not so long because he can use this as an excuse to figure out a way to control you or to figure out how he can win.

@Sofia how long do you consider appropriate? I’ve already been having to ask friends/family for rides to do simple things like go grocery shopping or deposit a check bc he won’t help with that.

Gather information and paperwork that you will need in the process of divorce, learn about your rights as wife and kids according to the state where you live. Prepare yourself with knowledge!

@Sofia I’m pretty sure the paperwork is different depending on uncontested or contested. So if I spend the money on the uncontested paperwork then he fights on it, that’s $150 I don’t really have to spare going down the drain.

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Leave him alone to ponder his thoughts and organise yourself. Be prepared for anything. People rarely give up easily even if it's their fault so he may well be in the process of fckng you up while you wait for him to relax. Just prepare yourself. If you can go back to family all the better. Him not helping you or the welfare of the baby is him trying to step on you and show you your place. That you will go running back to him is what he is waiting for. He already knows you're a sahm yet wanna act like you're good. Read between the lines and prepare for all outcomes.

@Sofia we set on having a sit down conversation in two weeks. With him visiting our son once in between.

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